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writes:Hi...Recently I gave my boyfriend a blowjob. This was the first time I ever gave a blowjob to anyone, but I did it because I love him.When I was doing it he took a while to cum and my jaw became so sore, my nose even started running, and my eyes watering. I thought I was going to cry.This pain turned me off giving oral. I explained this to my boyfriend and he said he's never going to let me do it again. But I want to. I want to do it because seeing him happy, makes me happy....but how can I get over my fear and overcome the pain? Thanks
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reader, im_a_dummy  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 well, my sister is a porn star, so she gives me tips... she told me-- so im not sure its true-- but she says the most sensitive part is the head of the penis, so if u cant deep throat or you dont want to just use the tip of ur your tounge and make circles on the head of the penis... also if you lick down the back of the penis there is a sensitive part, or rub ur finger down it.... ummmm.... not saying you have to swallow, but sumthing else my sister told me was you should swallow because you are showing him how much you love him, and then spiting the cum out, is showing that his cumming discusts you and its like you are repealing against him.. i dont know about the last one, i spit cuz its gross.... but those are just a few things my sister told me.. hope it helps
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reader, PLAYFUL +, writes (4 November 2008):
 I know just how u feel I did start crying my eyes got tears in them and I so had to stop I'm also new to going down on my guy but I feel so bad that each time he's so close I stop or pull out cuz I feel like I need a moment so don't feel bad u get it ....it take time but when he comes I don't think u like it 2 much I no I don't but it was a bit sweet to me but not all guy are the same oh and sum guy don't like to kiss after oral sex but if he douse that good in joy but if he dousent lick his face then maybe he give u a fast kiss that's what I did so have fun....xox
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): Performing Fellatio (Oral sex on a man)
Find a comfortable position.
He should be immaculately clean.
You can begin by kissing and licking the penis; then, holding the shaft in one hand, swirl your tongue gently around the tip.
Next, explore the shaft, running your tongue around the ridge where it meets the head and vibrate it gently against the frenulum.
When you feel ready, take his penis into your mouth; do cover your teeth with your lips; take the whole head into your mouth; with your teeth well apart, move your mouth up and down, allow your partner to guide the rhythm with his hands on your head.
Maintain a steady rhythm and firm pressure.
Don’t bend the penis to far down; this can be painful
The penis should always point upwards.
Gradually increase the speed until he is ready to climax.
Then, if you do not want him to ejaculate in your mouth, withdraw and bring him to orgasm with your hand or switch to intercourse.
There are various other alternatives that you can practice when you are getting comfortable
Remember, the scrotum is also very sensitive so you can use your tongue and mouth there as well.
Hope this is of assistance to you.
Enjoy, it is much nicer then licking an ice-cream!
Deep-throating, if desired or preferred, is usually easier if the woman gets on her hands and knees, perhaps on a bed, and facing the man while he stands in front of her. This places her mouth and neck in a position that usually makes deeper penetration into her throat more comfortable for both.
Remember that he may be extremely sensitive after ejaculation. Very gently, clean his tip with your tongue if you wish, and cuddle up with him for a good night's sleep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): give him a massage... get your oils and massage nothing but his penis. up and down, between your fingers, use both hands. just massage it as if you were massaging his back. long strokes, short strokes, be gentle. HE WILL GO CRAZY once he can no longer take it then give him oral he'll cum in seconds from the wetness of your mouth alone and the pleasure will be all yours. If executed properly, he'll be begging for it all of the time. Once you get good at it. You can also use this as a tactic to make him practice control... Well, tell him if he gets on hard then you're going to stop massaging him and really do it. You'll be amazed. You can turn those 10 min quickies into hours of fun and pleasure. LOL Have fun!good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): The answers here are very good. My wife told me about her 1st time giving a blowjob, and she hated it very much. The guy was a real jerk and every time her jaw started hurting, she would slow down, or back off and he would push her head down. Then to make it worse, he never warned her, and just came in her mouth. She hated it so much, she swore she would never do that again. Needless to say, she broke up with that jerk within 1-2 weeks after that.She then started dating this real nice guy, he actually was patient with her, and taught her to kiss and lick around a lot before actually taking his penis in her mouth. Also, while she was performing oral on his penis, she would use her hands on his shaft and balls. He also warned her when he was going to cum so she could decide what to do. They broke up after dating almost a year, but guess what, I was the next (and final boyfriend, we're married a few years now (over 10 years), and I am the lucky recipient of a very orally talented fine woman. You boyfriend sounds like he is sensitive, and not a jerk, so next time, try 'oral foreplay' on him, and ask him to tell you what he likes, etc... If you stay with him, or if not, a future husband will enjoy your oral talents greatly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): Hands, mouth, tongue;
Hands can be very usefull.
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reader, Cheater32 +, writes (3 November 2008):
 I love giving blow jobs to my husband also. I agree get him arroused first before going straight for it. I would use the tip of my tongue on lick the head of his penis its less hard on your jaws and it feels really good for him use you're hand to while you have your mouth on it rub in between his thighs. These are all things that cause arrousal and are less work for you and your mouth:-).
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): we all know how that feels! play with him first get him close to coming using your hands then follow through with the oral. this way you only have his thing in your mouth for half the time!
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