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*sears1989
writes:This is driving me crazy does anyone else hate there husbands or bfs best friend? I do and it sucks cause were stuck living with him only plus side is i love his gf. I need advice on how to deal with this. Were stuck living with him till we can get our house and we just moved in with him like 3 weeks ago. Hes bossy he doesnt like me and doesnt want me here but denys it though i can tell he dont. He wants to get rid of me so he can have my husband all to himself. When my husband is around him he acts like a jerk to andagrees mostly with everything his friend says. Im pregnant and just cause i didnr clean something up he was gonna throw me out for two hours. Luckily my husband stepped in but he dont see why i hate him cause there best friends snd ibreally hate him
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 October 2013):
 That's my point, actually. You WILL be paying rent- i.e. you'll pay when you can-hopefully soon. But until then, you , your husband and your 3 y.o. are there out of this guy's courtesy . You are his guests . Of course that does not give him the right to be mean or rude to you- then again, I really don't know too many people who would offer ospitality for an undetermined , and unpredictable, length of time to an unemployed friend AND his small kid. If you look at him under this light, the guy ain't THAT bad, all considered .
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (18 October 2013):
It's sad, but you can't be picky about flatmates right now. If both you and your bf are unemployed, with no assistence from your family, no idea when you'll start earning something, and with a baby on the way.... in other words if you are at this guys' place, for free or for the fee that YOU can afford, you are there just out of the goodness of his heart ; I'd say that he is being nice enough , and even nicer in case he actually does not like you, yet took you in regardless. In these conditions I am afraid you have no choice other than being the best , nicest , cleanest roommate that you can, abide by this guy's rules, become blind and deaf to any real or perceived slight, ... and insist with your bf that he starts looking for something temporary WHILE he's waiting for his background check, or in case that job should not come through.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 October 2013):
 It sounds like you did have a baby, where is that child now? LIving with you and you your husband's best friend? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/pregnant-not-ready-for-a-child-but-cannot.html
And this is the husband? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/our-marriage-is-hanging-by-a-thread-my.html The one you don't trust?
Where is your other child and why would you move away from your family at this point in time, if he doesn't have a job there already? That's a huge step and to have to live with friends for 2 years doesn't sound like a good game plan.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 October 2013):
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-the-only-pregnant-woman-living-apart.html
Do you have other children? This is a very long and problematic relationship you have going on here.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 October 2013):
I'm sorry, did you move across country to live with his best friend for 2 years? Was that the plan to start with? Wow.
Have you both looked for other jobs in the meantime to save up some money? If you are pregnant, you two need to be making progess on this ASAP. Wouldn't that be a bigger issue than whether or not you get along with this man?
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (18 October 2013):
Dsears1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe cant stay with family because we moved across country from them and my husband hasnt started working yet hes waiting on a background check. I have no clue how long itll be till we can get our house prob 2 years or more.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 October 2013):
 Well all my friends hate my husband that's the best I have.
they can tolerate him in small doses and they do. that is all
the issue is that you are LIVING with them.. why them? why not family? what other options were there for living arrangements.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 October 2013):
Okay, I guess this question isn't really resonating with the aunts. I have never had to live with a friend who I hated, so I can't relate.
I guess maybe he resents your living with him and rather than take it out on your husband he's picking on you? Maybe you aren't a great roommate? Maybe he's a creep and you need to get away from him?
How long till you can move? Why not move in with other friends? Maybe you could move in with family until you can get your house?
If you love his gf then spend time with her. Clean up after yourself (it's only good manners, pregnant or no, you are not disabled). Take yourself and your husband out of the house most of the day. Buy groceries and cook, clean up after yourself.
This is only temporary so do the very best you can to play nice until you get your own house and then you can only see each other in small doses.
Good luck with your pregnancy. Hope you get into your house soon.
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (18 October 2013):
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