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writes:well this is just me thinking if im honest ... how many people here on this site have been with spouses since they were in their mid teens (14-17) because me and my bf started goin out last year (me 13 and him 14) and after a year and 3 months we're still goen rele strong and we seem 'perfect' for each other at the minute anyway! we both are quite similar and have the same moral values.. im jus wondering if others have had 'first loves' as their like final love? if you get me... Reply to this Question
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reader, Smileypants  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 Well, I did marry my big teenage love....we got divorced 5 yrs in. We're cool now, we have a teenage son, but that's the way it is. You see, what I learned is that who you are at 15 is a whole different person than who you are at 25.
There are always exceptions, but it's that way a lot. Don't stress about the rest of your life yet...there is sooooo much more to come, you have no idea yet!! Enjoy *now* :)
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 Honestly, you two are still much too young to be even be thinking about that. I know, it's fun to sit and fantasize about being with him forever and imagine a great fulfilled life together.
My boyfriend and I met when we were 15 and 17. We dated for 10 months, broke up for 3, dated a year, broke up for another 4 months, got back together for the last time and it lasted 3 years. We broke up again and moved on. When you are a teenager, you don't know who you are or who you are going to become. Yes, I know, you really believe that you know everything and that the person you are now isn't going to change...but you will. Everyone does. It's growing up. I'm 27 now and I am nothing like I was when I was 13. So don't plan the wedding yet, have fun dating and be safe.
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reader, Fate100percent +, writes (21 June 2011):
Two of my best friends met their (now) husbands as teenagers 13 ish if I recall. Both are settled with kids and not (of my knowledge) affairs or problems.
So yes it can happen and does happen. I guess if you both grow and mature at the same rate then it can work out.
Some people meet their Mr Right at 13, some don't. So just enjoy your relationship right now, take it day by day and see what happens. If it works out for you great, if it doesn't it wasn't meant to be :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): My parents met at school and started going out when they were 17. They've been married for 28 years now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): Yeah don't worry I'm not gettin too far ahead of myyself! Haha I no like ppl change and everything I'm jus interested in other ppls experiences :) but thanks everyone for the advice :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 I knew a couple in high school who were very much in love and when they broke up the girl told me that they were made for each other, but met too young. That now wasn't the time for them to be together.
It all sounds discouraging, some make it and others don't. But there are other factors in this than just being made for each other and being good together. Often, the rest of your life is a stronger factor than the chemistry between you two. Where you are at in life can matter more. This goes for all ages, not just teenagers.
Some make it, others don't. Life, and love, hold no guarantee. I think you should continue to be with your boyfriend of course, and who knows what the future will bring. But, if you're thinking in terms of marriage and committment, I must tell you that when it comes to relationships, a year as a teenager is different from a year as an adult. When I ask people how many relationships they've been in, we only count from after high school and up, unless they're still with the childhood sweetheart after the age of 18. Around 18-19 is when you really start to count, as that is when you're becoming an adult. And an adult relationship is wastly different from the relationship of teenagers. In other words, if you are thinking of marriage, you need to postpone that thought until you're at least 18. Preferably wait until you're done with your education.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (21 June 2011):
Nope. I had my first boyfriend when I was 18, and we were together for 3 and a half years. We even got engaged. But we still weren't able to make it work. There's a lot to learn and work through in relationships, and sometimes the first few fail. I don't want to scare you away, or make it seem like you can't make it work. But you are still young, and there is still a lot to go through. I thought that every single one of my long term relationships would make it at the time. Just remember that if you want it to last, both of you have to keep working at it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): Dated for 3+ years from age 16-19, broke up for nearly 4 years then got back together and were married within a year. Happily married now for 15+ years. She was my first love though it wasn't roses and sunshine all the time. We both had a lot of growing up to do.
Most kids I knew in high school did not last together much past high school, including the ones who got married right out of high school.
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reader, kylieekristina +, writes (21 June 2011):
 Youve already gotten some great advice. I've learned when it comes to love taking it day by day so you can enjoy it makes it last. I wouldn't worry about years from now. It can be fun talking about it, making plans for the future, just remeber things change and people change....enjoy it while its good and as long as this feeling lasts.....whether it be a year or decades!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 June 2011):
 not me
I was 15 1/2 when met my first real boyfriend. we dated two years.. then we broke up...
my parents met at 16 and 19 and married 3 years later....
my grandparents met at 10 and 12 in the orphanage and married in their late 20s....
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