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writes: I was going to send this annonymously, but thought about it and decided that I have nothing to be ashamed of. I also want people to be aware that I'm not a Know-it-all, and there are things I need help with too!I am in an LDR, I first met him in June, when I flew up to his area. I than saw him again in Sept when he flew here. We talk every night for at least an hour or two...sometimes more! We are very much in love, and plan to be together in the future. Now keep in mind, I am 58, and he is 62. We don't have time for a long courtship! We have been searching for eachother all our lives. He is a wonderful man and shows me love that I have never known. He sends me gifts and thoughtful things he thinks I would like, as well as jewelry. He sends cards and even writes me poetry...Okay here is my problem...Since we first met, I have gained 5 lbs. He likes a thin body on a woman and to begin with I am "shapely" proportionately so. When we first layed eyes on eachother, in June he couldn't keep his eyes off me and the first thing he said when I arrived at the airport was: "You are f**king gorgeous!" But when I picked him up at the airport in September, while we were waiting for his luggage, he said "You gained a couple of pounds." He was right I had gained 2 lbs! Since then I have gained 3 more. I try to watch what I eat and I am a preschool teacher so I feel I get lots of exercise. But I am considering joining a gym after Christmas. I'm just concerned that I won't have the ambition to go after working all day. I have ordered things online that claim to help with weightloss, but to no avail. I am so depressed over this it's effecting the rest of my life. Added to all the other stresses...an LDR, financial difficulties, stress at work...I feel so down! Although I am so grateful to have this man in my life! Please don't tell me "If he loves you, 5 lbs won't matter"...or..."Love yourself for who you are" I'm looking for weightloss suggestions...I would really appreciate any feedback with this! I should mention I am 5' tall (or should I say short) and my present weight is 120 lbs. My ideal weight is 114 lbs (for my age and how I appear, anything less than that and I look sickly and older!) Sorry this is so long. I to keep things simple...but...I'm a woman!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses! Pepper...I checked out all three of those websites you recommended and they were very helpful. I will continue to visit them on a regular basis.
Ginalolabrigda...I am also going to check out weight watchers, And last but not least...Anonymous...I am going to check out South Beach also. And to reply to your question...That has crossed my mind once or twice also, but all his other qualities make up for that one thing. He likes what he likes and so do I! He happens to be tall and thin...and that's what I like! If this one specific area is something I can do to please him (as well as myself) then I don't have much to complain about. This isn't something new to me. I've always obsessed about my weight. If anything he helps me keep a handle on it. I want to always feel good about myself and when I gain a couple of lbs, I feel it! And those other "what ifs" you mentioned, he isn't like that and would never walk away if I was to fall ill, or meet a tragic accident. That I know for sure. I have already stood by him through a heart attack! (Well, via phone that is)
Thank you again and I am checking out all the suggestions given me! I so appreciate the concern you all have! I just love this site!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): I'm older also (53) and it certainly gets easier to gain weight and harder to lose as we get older. I know you don't want anything other than weight loss suggestions and I'm going to get to that, but first I have to say, do you REALLY want to be with someone the rest of your life that you fear will drop you if you gain 5 pounds? What a horrible way for you to live, not to mention how shallow of him if that's the case. What if something else happens to you to mar your looks? You become scarred in an accident, for instance, and are no longer "f. . .ing gorgeous"? Sorry, but I just had to say that. Now, to the weight loss part. I'm on a diet myself and just lost 15 pounds (in 5 weeks), which for me is just a start - I need to lose 25 more. I've been doing the South Beach diet, which has worked for me in the past. You lose weight quickly and fairly painlessly, as you can eat a lot (of certain foods). It's a pretty healthy diet, too. Look online and you will find the program, food lists, recipes etc. I also work out at the gym 5 days a week, doing weight training as well as cardio. I think you're right to try to lose weight now before it escalates out of control like mine did, but please, lose it for yourself, for your own health and well-being. Good luck!!
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You are not hugely overweight so I would suggest a healthy eating plan love plus some exercise at home can greatly improve shedding those extra unwanted pounds, I've found a few links for you love that hopefully will help...
http://www.helpguide.org/life/healthy_eating_diet.htm
http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/HQ/00694.html
http://boomer-living.com/fitness/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=53
These links should help TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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