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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of 3 years dumped me 6 months ago and I am still not over it. We still talk now but online and I miss him like you wouldnt believe.He dumped me because he had became depressed as he had no idea what he was doing with his life and so on but now he is fine and his life careerwise is heading in a great direction. However when it comes to relationships he doesnt want one...he says he's happy being single as it's simple and easy.I cant stand the thought of him being with someone else...he is not looking for anyone or anything but if a girl was to pay him loads of attention and well just want a one-night stand he would easily do that, I know he would and I hate that. I hate that thought, it hasnt happened yet and I dont want it too. I want him back!Anyone know how to help me get him back? Prove that a relationship doesnt have to complicated and hard and that it can be simple and easy.He is my perfect guy, I've been around 21 years and never came accross anyone likehim and trust me I've travelled a lot...I love him.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (16 October 2011):
 I'm afraid he has moved along with his life. He doesn't want a relationship and life and career are going well. He may have been depressed about his life before but now seems he has got through it. Sadly, he got through it without you and perhaps that is a clue for you that he simply wishes to focus on himself now. Possibly cut all contact now and move on and accept he wont be into a relationship.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 I understand that you love him and you want to be with him, but if he is just not wanting the same thing as you well then there is absolutely nothing you can do to make him change his mind. He obviously went through a rough stage six months ago and he is now getting his life back on track and he is happy again. It sounds like he just wants to be free and single for the moment, this is something that he obviously needs therefore I guess you just need to accept that he doesn't want to be with you any more. It is always hard getting over a break up and a broken heart. Everyone struggles with it. But I feel that you are not accepting it completely and you are prolonging your pain. I think in your head you just cannot accept that it is over and this is not healthy at all. You need to accept that he has moved on now and you need to do the same. Live a happy single life and it will get better in time. But staying in contact with him is just going to keep hurting you more therefore I think you need to cut contact for a while to allow yourself more time to get over him.
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