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writes:hi im hoping you can help me. about 3 months ago i met this man and things have been great, he,s everything i ever wanted and more. he left his wife 10 months ago and i am divorced and apart from my ex husband 8 years. we moved in together last couple of weeks ago and this last few days he seems in a very low mood, he says he gets like this sometimes and that he will attend the doctor. he,s not the same with me as he was or my 2 daughters or indeed anyone at all. i just dont know whats up with him, he,s so distant and we are definately not the way together that we used to be, i love him so much and want to be with him forever but i dont know what has gone wrong. please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2011): Is he still married or has the divorce gone through? Has he even initiated divorce proceedings and signed the paperwork?
He left his wife a few months ago, moved in with you and your two kids after knowing you only a couple of months, and he's depressed. He really didn't have much time to grieve over the loss of his marriage and may still have his mind in the past?
Rebounds get a bad rap for a reason. Do you think it was premature moving this man into your home with your kids? Is he still talking to his wife?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 He has told you that sometimes he gets like this. To me it sounds like he goes through bouts of depression. You have only known this man for three short months that is not a lot of time to really know this man well enough and everything in his life seems to be changing very very fast. In less than a year he has went through a separation from his wife, met you and has now moved in with you. That is very quick for anyone to come to terms with, so this mixed with a history of him going quiet then my guess is he might just be rushing things a little bit. Your relationship has went very fast. So talk to him openly and ask him does he feel like you are both moving to fast. He needs time to grieve for the marriage that he lost as well. It does sound like a bout of depression though. Have you asked him has he suffered from this in the past? Communicate more openly with him and see how it goes. Good luck.
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