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writes:I live way out in the country, have earned enough to support me well for at least one lifetime, and I really enjoy just working on my land, building and inventing things, and making deep, powerful, soul-merging love. The only problem is lack of a lover or lifemate. Yes, I only need one, though she should be the right one.People say you should do what you enjoy, and I'm doing that --- alone.I'm attracted to much younger women since I'm in very good shape and think like a person 25 years younger than I am. Relationship is everything to me, and I truly enjoy seeing my lover happy, yet the social scene is somewhere between scary and boring. I've done it, successfully at times, though it's far more work than joy. I have had very limited success advertising on the net - it seems most responses are cityfolk, and they want to spend their time in restaurants and museums rather than making love in paradise.Any suggestions for finding a likeminded lifemate, attracting her, sleeping with her and sealing the deal? Driving back and forth to the closest city is a four hour trip.
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (3 June 2008):
WastedLife is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone - I'm doing what I can to work with your suggestions. Jen86, it's too bad you're in a relationship and on the wrong side of the pond, - you're just the right age for me! Let me know if anything changes XD.
Aunt Letty - good idea, though much of what I create is structures and heavy equipment. Some is mobile, and some needs a crane to move. Either way, heavy, greasy, noisy things may not be attractive to too many women, even if it is very useful and functional. I suppose downsizing is an idea........... I'm not much of an artist - more the good engineer.
Anonymous, the small towns in my county(larger than Rhode Island) are all 700 people or less, including kids and animals, I suspect. There is a tavern of sorts in town, though the same four guys seem to occupy it each night, drinking to oblivion. For any serious people-mixing, I think I have to go for the serious driving, and that means really pushing the relationship process too quickly whenever I meet someone.
I have tried mentioning that I am single and looking - all that seems to get is very strange looks. I've not been introduced to anyone, nor has that been hinted at. I've even asked female friends to introduce me to their friends, and they are either reluctant or refuse. It seems that trawling the net and the city for a desperate woman are really the only options, and I'm really too busy to waste 1/2 or more of my life doing things I don't want to just to be disappointed yet again.
Unfortunately, socially "having fun" is painful alone. I can fake it better than most, though not well enough, and it has yet to yield a result. Most women I meet here are married. There is an 18 year old single woman in town that I like, but I can't imagine her wanting me. She is polite to me when we meet where she works, but that's probably because I'm a customer.
There may be sites with worldwide reach that match based on my criteria - rural, much younger, nurturing, needy and appreciative - in the sense that I still have a male provider/protector role. I've not found them yet though. If I'm missing something or need to learn something new, I'm game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Coming from a girl who lives in the middle of nowhere and has essentially the same problem, in reverse... if you live in the country and want a woman who thinks likewise, looking in cities is probably not going to help you much unless the woman in question hates city life and is living there for reasons of convenience. You might try going to social events in small towns between you and the city you mention, if there are any. Good luck :)
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reader, Aunt Letty  +, writes (1 June 2008):
You enjoy inventing and building things, why not display them at craft fairs or local shows, get yourself known as the local eligible artistic bachelor and the word will soon get out. Women love a man who's good with his hands...
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