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writes:I have been with my husband now for 13 years we have 3 children and another one on the way. We got married in August and i have just recently found out that he has been having an affair with somone who he met on his stag night, now she is saying that she is pregnant with his child. I just dont know what to do, he tells me it was a mistake and that he loves me. He couldnt be sorry enough but i just need some advice on what to do, its torn me apart and i just dont know what to do for the best.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 You've been together 13 years since you were teenagers . . . you have 3 kids to him and one on the way. You get married 3 months ago. What was the rush? LOL.
At his bachelor party, he hooks up with someone and now she's pregnant. Is this the gist of it?
Sounds like your husband is a real standup guy. Not really.
You're the only one that knows how much you can tolerate. I'd be out the door. . . but that's just me.
Good luck.
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Hi
Has your hubby been seeing this woman since before you were married or just recently?
I feel sorry for you that you are dealing with pregnancy as well as a selfish husband, i think i would personally throw him out, but i am not in your situation and thats only my opinion!
In reality it all depends on weather or not you can forgive him or if you can ever trust him again. You need to talk to your husband about how you are feeling and what this has done to your relationship etc.
If you decide to give things ago you need to be able to put this behind you 100% it's no good throwing it in his face when you fall out.
(Also if the other woman is pregnant you both need to discuss how you are going to deal with it and stick together)
Feel free to drop me an email if you need to talk x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): I think your next step needs to be marriage guidance. I cannot make any decisions for you. I know i would be gutted but you have to think of your child on the way. You need to look after yourself and dont get too stressed because of this. You two need to have a good chat and get this ironed out once and for all. You also have to make sure your children are ok too. I cannot help but feel heartily sorry for you. How could he do this to you? you must ask yourself this every day.
I, personally could trust him again and i think all of my love would of died the moment i found out about the other woman and her pregnancy. I am sorry that you are having to go through this.
You alone can decide what action you need to take. I personally would have to get rid of him and bring the kids up on my own. I know it will be hard but i wouldnt be able to live with him again.
take care and keep in touch if you want.
xx
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