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*olviva
writes:Heya,I have been seeing a girl now for just 1 month I no its not a long amout of time but i already feel that I realy like her as I have had a massive crush on her long before we started dating. The thing is I am already having doubts about her even so soon into the relationship i dont now what it is that i should be feeling but i think she may be cheating. Wenever she goes out to partys she always finds an excuse for me not to go. Even through the Xmas holidays she makes excuses for me not to see her, i have bin out with her once during the 2 weeks holiday. I always make the effort in tying to see her out of college and whenever she does agree to go out she always seems not botherd about spending time with me. She has alot of guy mates and she always tells me about how they come on to her and compliment her all the time. However, when we do go out she seems realy close and that she likes spending time with me. She has just got out of a serious relationship with this guy but she always sees him when she goes to clubs. I keep thinking that its just me but whenever anyone asks about her they keep telling me she is cheating or playing with me making me think about her ex. I want to find out what it is thats makin her act sus because i am feeling i dont want to waste my time and get upset. Please do not read this and think that i am being obsesive because i do not mind at all that she would want to go out on her own and i dont pressure her to go out. Any suggestions on what it could be please. Thanks for reading x
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (1 January 2008):
 She is sounding somewhat wishy washy about your relationship. If she was serious about being with you she would not be acting such with other guys.
She may just be stringing you along.
Test this out. Try to be at her every beck and call. Do whatever you can to make her feel good. Compliment the way she looks. How you like her perfume etc. Open doors for her. See if she responds to these things. Maybe you are not giving her the things she likes and needs.
If she doesn't respond then maybe she is just a flirt and not worth the time. I hope this helps. Doc
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reader, tytoalba +, writes (1 January 2008):
 You're welcome, every girl is different, not all girls exhibit these sign because they're "playing" you, but because they are unsure of themselves. I'm a girl, I should know. Happy New Year.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (1 January 2008):
 She's a player and you're being played. Take it from someone who's been there.
Move on to greener pastures. Good luck.
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reader, solviva +, writes (1 January 2008):
solviva is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you
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reader, tytoalba +, writes (1 January 2008):
I understand why you feel this way. Since it's so early, it's hard to see a cause. Maybe she's not completely over her ex and is trying to straighten herself out. Or she may feel she made a mistake with her ex and is trying to make sure she doesn't do the same to you. Maybe also because she sees him everywhere it stresses her out and does not want to be "tempted" because she's unsure of herself. But the others could be right. You might want to give it more time so any other signs can come out.
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