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writes:Hey everyone. I was wondering if with my situation I have a chance of getting back with my ex gf? ive been thinking about her alot lately. Anyway, heres my situation, I met her in October of 2008, we seemed to connect really well, and we began dating. Everything got better, and it eventually grew into a loving relationship. Everything was going smoothly untill January, when I noticed she was beginning to pay less and less attention to me. You probably know where this is going. One night, she told me that the feeling was fading fast, and she dumped me. We remained good friends for a few weeks after that, she thought i was a sexy sweet guy, and she talked about how she missed me, how she wanted to kiss me, and maybe even have sex. I asked her about giving the relationship another shot, and she told me that she didnt see me as a bf anymore, but only as a really good friend. I was very upset, and kinda acted out a bit, trying to argue with her, only to get the response "I'm Sorry! What else do you want me to say?" Then, she stopped sending me any texts or calling me, and when I would talk to her and try to apologize, I would get an ok thanks response. Anyway, I went online and did some research, and found that I had already done many of the things that will kill my chances of getting back with her. I even bought Matt Huston's ebook Get Your Ex Girlfriend back, and it said to stop talking to her for about 3-4 weeks, and then approach her again, not bringing up anything about the relationship, tell her how bad it would be to throw away a great friendship, and making small talk about whatever. I figured I had nothing to lose, so I would give this a try. I tried contacting her again just last week, and did all of the above. However, although she seemed to understand, she hasnt talked to me since, and still doesnt seem very interested in talking to me. So, does anyone have any advice for our friendship back, getting her interested in me, and maybe getting out relationship back? I mean, I know it doesnt sound good for me, but I think if we just talked some more and got comfortable with each other again, things could improve
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reader, Reuben Sullins +, writes (17 April 2009):
well dude i don't know if you did this already but have you just tried setting down with her and ask, what was it that made you lose interest in meas a boyfriend. And what made you lose interest in me as a friend. once you do that ask if i work on this things could we still be friends. Because even if were not dating i still would like the fact that we could be good friends.. i curently tring this it worked for me but i fucked it up but asking to many questions about the past.
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Simply put - let it go. You've become desperate and girls walk all over guys like that. I think she sees you just as a friend, she might flirt with you every now and again, but she sees you as a guy friend. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. She's just not feeling you like that, it's life.
Just let it go. I believe guys should chase girls but you definitely went past that already. Take a little time to get over her and you'll find someone else.
Sorry and best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): fool - think you need to give her time and space. setting a time limit of 3 weeks because of the book is stupid.
Have you blown your chances yes. will it work for the two you - possibly.
You have to give her space - and that space could be forever if that's what she needs.
You need to move on and prove you are normal. Buying a book like that is not normal. We will give you all the advice for free. hassling her to be your friend every week is not the way to do it - give her space and go and do something else come back in 6 weeks (so tempting to write "and 3 days 2hrs" just to see if yo are exact with timings)
Really though you need to move on if your friendship is suppoed to work, it will find a way through - but you go out, have fun and stop thinking! and stop buying pointless books....
Star.x.
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