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writes:I just CANNOT forget my ex, we broke up a few days ago. Even though we fought a lot, when we didn't it was perfect! Any boy I talk to, just seems plain nothing comparing to my ex. I love him to pieces, I sometimes wish I could just call him like old times. I don't know what to do, no one can compare to him in so many ways!! What am I to do! Please help!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 January 2010):
Girl, it's only been a few days. It takes more than a few days to get over someone. Just spend time being yourself. Forget guys for a while, have fun with friends, focus on work and fun. You will get over this guy. Clearly he isn't Mr Right, which means Mr Right is still out there! You'll fund him.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (28 January 2010):
Get a grip, you broke up a few days ago. You'll probably feel the same way in a couple months. It takes time and don't worry about other guys until you're done comparing them to your ex.
Just realize people go through breakups every single day throughout the day so your case isn't any different. There's loads of people out there feeling like you do and there are A LOT that have felt the way that you do right now, but they got over it. It just takes time; keep yourself busy and try to keep your mind off things and certainly don't have contact with him anymore if you still are. You're going to have days where you feel great and days where you'll hate yourself and miss him. It's natural, but you just have to begin the process of moving on with your life without him.
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reader, SeXylOvE12 +, writes (28 January 2010):
 it's only been a few days!! If you were that in love with your ex then it's going to take weeks or months to get over him, not days. You need to give yourself more time to recover. I think that you should take some time for you to find yourself without him and become stable alone before you try to date again. It wouldn't be fair to the guy if you're still in love with your ex.
How do you know that none of these guys compare to your ex? It doesn't sound like you've gotten to know any of them very well. Give the other guys a chance. You can't try to compare them to your ex. Every person is different. What you hated in your ex you might love in someone else just because of the way they do it.
Just try to be positive about the situation. When people break up then tend only to think about the good times they had with that person because they miss them so much. But you have to remember the bad times too. You broke up for a reason. You're young still, you have a long time to find a nice, caring guy that you can have a good relationship with without fighting constantly.
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