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writes: I am in a loving relationship we are both over the 65 mark and in good health. Both want full sex but I am unable to perform, Typical erectile dysfunction I think.Don't want drugs if possible. Any known cures please.
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reader, Easy Rider  +, writes (2 November 2007):
Having come through a painful and unsatisfying marriage lasting 20 years, my confidence was shattered and I felt ugly and unlovable. I met a woman a couple of months ago, who luckily for me was able to see through my inhibitions and lack of confidence and made me believe that I may be able to enjoy a relationship after all.
The problem was that each time we tried to make love I found I got really nervous and lost the erection before penetration. This made both of us frustrated and I once again began to think that I was failing in my function as a man.
This time I went and talked to my doctor, who prescribed a mild dose of viagra. I have found that just a 25mg dose makes all the difference. Since then I have found that I can keep an erection without the pill, but I know now that viagra gave me the confidence to keep on going and break through my long standing and ingrained inhibitions.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (4 August 2006):
 Being physically active is supposed to help - not marathons but daily activity apparently improves performance in the bedroom. Another thing is to cut out alcohol and cigarettes as both are associated with problems, eat fish oils and drink lots of water. If you don't mind, have a chat with your doctor about it as it is a common problem and there are lots of manual aids - I would give the lifestyle options a try first!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): There is an article in the UK edition of Men's Health (in shops now); "Last man standing", there are 6 tips to prolong your "bang-time again and again and again" (heh)Tip 4 "Pop up" reads:Before you go scrabbling for Vigra, steel yourself with a burst of shellfish. Oyster powder is rich in Zinc, which helps your body produce the hard-on hormone testosterone - so if the thought of stuffing yourself with liver before you deliver is a little too silence of the lambs for you, then pop a couple of Male Angel Oyster Plus tablets (£4.95 www.sexshop365.co.uk) (August 2006, p.16)Good luck!
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reader, Juliette +, writes (4 August 2006):
 Shania is right but also some GPs are not very good at giving full advice as apparrently 98% are embarrassed. I find many men have been given medicine as you put it and it doesn't work without the support that should go with it and then men feel even worse.
First of all, your GP should check you physically to see everything is normal down there, whether he/she does or not, you should then have your hormone levels checked, maybe your cholesterol and prostate too.
Consider medication, it isn't such a bad thing. In fact in often kick starts a man back into action with very little dosage and remeber it is not a tablet you have to take every day, more like an odd indigestion pill when required.
Other options are a small pellet you put in where you wee from, injection, or a pump that swells your penis.
Another option I have recently heard was successful, is a bit of fun also. Even without training, your partner can pretend to be a masseur and just lie naken on a towel either on the floor or your bed and let her massage you. Start with arms, back and chest, then legs, taking a good half an hour no matter how randy you feel, let the tension build up. The increased blood flow from the stimuli may bring about a spontaneous erection without her even touching your genitals. If that does not work, then as long as you have no angina, ask for the medicine, it is great and worth it, but be prepared to pay up to £50 for a prescription depending on where you get it dispensed.
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reader, shania +, writes (4 August 2006):
 Lack of sexual desire with your partner can reduce your ability to maintain a erection....alse anxiety and stress will dampen your sex life as well...drugs usually are the answer for some men but if you really are against medication then perhaps sex counselling could help.Depending on the nature of the problem you should consult your own doctor for advice and they will refer you to a specialist.Iv known cases where if your partner gave you a body massage it does reduce sexual anxiety and if you just concentrate on foreplay and no intercourse for a while then it will take the pressure off you.Try it but see your doctor for more help.
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