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writes:I need to know how to read my guy friend's signals. I have fallen head over heals for one of my guy friends. He is a super nice guy always complimenting me, always flashing me smiles, lots of quick --hold my stare eye contact, but I don't know if it's interest or friendship. I don't want to risk ruining our friendship if he doesn't feel the same. He talks to me on the phone, but usually I call first. When I mention how much I talk he always says he enjoys our conversations or that he is listening. What are good communication signs that he is feeling the same? Also, sometimes when we are around each other he seems to spend alot of time with me; then other times he just goes off and watches T.V. or stays in another room away from where I'm at. Any advice on how to tell if your guy friend is interested in more than being "just friends" would be greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, asweet12love +, writes (30 April 2008):
Okay so I have known this guy that i like since kindergarden... I finally told him how i felt about him and every since then everything has been going down the drain... I wrote him the other day and told him i was going to quite writing him because i didn't want to annoy him so he wrote back and said i told you thousand times my computer is messed up so if ur going to be immature about it then we can stop talking... Then i got on his myspace and it say i wish she would grow up and be mature.... I don't know wat to do i wish someone can help me.... But he's mom told me the other day he's thinking abouting puting are friendship down the drain now i wish i never told him anything on how i feel so idk wat to do maybe if i keep my mouth shut things would be the same it's all my fault are friendship is going down the drain
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): It sounds to me like he likes you.
Don't assume that because he goes into another room "away" from you that he might not. He could very well be seeing if you'll follow him or if you're interested.
My advice is to just ask him and be prepared for any answer. Let him know that it wont change anything, but you're curious about how he feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): hey look there is no way to tell if he likes you!!!!!!!!!!
lol guys have diffrent ways... meaning not all guys act the same
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): hi i had the same dilema with a friend of mine 8 years ago i was in a relationshp with his friend and it was going really badly and my friend was being really nice to me so i told him i was getting feelings for him he said he would and but i was with his best mate and it could never happen. so that was 8 yrs ago i have since ended the relationship with his friend and got married and am v happy but the things you have mentioned still go on try telling him. your relationship shouldnt suffer if its strong enough and you never know he may surprise you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): Thank you so much for the advice. I want to approach him, but if I'm wrong I don't want there to be any awkward moments afterwards.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 I think this guy is showing you all the classic signs of fancying you. For starters maintaining eye contact is one of the most flirtatious tools you can use to let someone know you like them, and smiles to go with it says it all. I use eye contact and smiles when i really like someone, and if it is someone i don't fancy i tend to look away after a couple of seconds. He also likes to spend alot of time around you, which is also another good sign. Other things to look out for are touches, like if he touches your hand when taking something, or playfully taps your arm, or your leg. He may get tongue tied during conversation, or blush when you enter the room. reciprocate the flirting with him,return the eye contact and the smiles. After a couple of week of this and he has not asked you for a date, why don't you ask him if he fancies doing something one weekend.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 Normally, he would have asked you out until now, if he was genuinely interested in you as a woman also. I mean out for a dinner, romantic dinner, or movie, one on one. But he did not. May be he is too nice, may be he is gay (which I don't think) and may be he has a girlfriend (which you would know).
One other possibility is he may not be able to tell from YOUR behavior whether you like him (it is because you might be equally too nice to many other men also).
But since it is hard to tell at this given moment his real feelings you need to make an additional effort and regardless of whether he is interest in you or not it may be a good idea to give this situation a little push on your side and invite him for a romantic dinner at your place or at a restaurant and make him know how much he is special for you. He seems to be worth it for you.
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