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writes:I have wanted to be a lap dancer for a long time and, now I'm old enough, I want to try out for it. I'm nearly 20 and a student, so the money would be great! I don't have as much confidence as I used to, that's why I haven't been for an audition yet. But I think this will improve my self esteem and earn me some money, once I pluck up the courage to do it. However, I'm a bit worried and want some advice from someone who's done it before. Is it dangerous? I know the men can't touch but what about stalkers and weirdo's? Also, how good is the money and what should I expect? I've heard the girls who work there can be really bitches! Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): Here's MY answer... Don't do it. Why subject yourself to that? Why expose yourself to people you don't even know? Believe me. You WILL regret it wether you believe me or not.
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reader, childof1981  +, writes (27 December 2006):
 I highly recommend reading some blogs by strippers, this will give you a clear picture about what it is like to be a stripper. I have read more than a few of these blogs because one of my friends was having a bachelor party at a strip club and I wanted to find out what strippers find frustrating/annoying at work so I could avoid doing it.
Generally speaking, in any average club an "audition" is a formality at best. Clubs always want more girls as the variety makes it a more appealing club to clients.
Men are not supposed to touch you, but that does not mean they don't. Clients will cross the line and break the rules, that is something you will have to live with. Your real concern is how the club reacts to it, a club that ignores men that cross the line can be a nightmare for employees.
Money is a HIGHLY variable thing. Typically strippers owe the club a flat fee each time they work(around ~$20). You will usually work 4 nights a week, on a mix of good and bad nights. When starting out, you may barely make the house fee on bad nights. Which can be highly demoralizing as it seems you have worked for almost nothing, it may get better with experience or it may just be the club.
Reguardless, if after a month or two the house fee is more than 20% of what you are making a month you should leave the club.
Most common issues I have read are as follows.
Clients that smell bad
Clients that wear jeans
Clients that touch
Clients that proposition you for prostitution
Drugs in the workplace
Possible Arrest
Typically most of the girls are generally friendly and supportive of each other. The exception is at very small club with a small amount of clients, in which case there can be hostility stemming from competition.
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reader, cutiepie +, writes (27 December 2006):
hi I'm 19 and have been working as a pole dancer for 11 months. most legitimate clubs have good security to keep you safe, the only times that are of any concern are going outside for cigarette breaks if you smoke, if you don't smoke there is no problem with this all I would sugest is that you go with someone for your breaks.as for stalkers there is always a slight chance but the risks are quite low, however I would sugest you avoid public transportation on your way home. in my experience the other girls are quite friendly and are willing to help and give you advice. if you do decide to go for it, it will help your self confidence and at a good club an experienced dancer can earn upto 200-500 a night with tips. hope this helps!
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