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writes:I have a problem. Currently I'm single. Been that way for over a year now, despite various dates and the like I have not hooked up with anyone I really connected with. My problem is that I look at porn. Not too much, say once or twice a week, but if I go without for a week or two (I am trying to give up!) I find that my sex drive just goes haywire and I go on a porn binge (i.e. viewing for one to six hours at a time). I don't like this. I think it has potential for confusing my view of sexuality, not to mention being a monumental waste of effort. I don't like to support the porn industry by paying for this cr*p.I don't want porn to be part of my life, but I had early exposure, I freaking love the high it gives me and it's so darned accessible nowadays (damn the 'net)Do any guys have tips for giving up? Any girls have any thoughts for me? I want to be porn free for my life now and my future relationships. I have read on here how it wrecks marriages and relationships. I know that some people can keep porn as part of their lives and that's cool but I tend to have an addictive personality...Help, please. Tips, advice, thoughts. Anyone else going through this?
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reader, willywombat +, writes (3 March 2006):
 If you have an addictive personality, take up an addiction that you will enjoy seeing the results of. Go running or to the gym. You will have a better half in no time with toned abs...x
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reader, smeedle +, writes (3 March 2006):
 Well, you seem to like the porn and dont seem to do it that oftern, yes it can wreck relationships but only if the partner does not like it or you do it far too much and by that I mean while they are watching soaps on tv you are bashing the bishop in the computer room whilst looking at porn.
You can get addicted to porn and this can take hold of your life, so my suggestion is that while you are not sexually active with a partner, fill your boots but when you get a partner, and are having regular sex then discuss it with partner and get there views, cut it down and do with them the things you immagine doing with the ladies on the computer.
If you still cannot taper it off and your watching increases and you feel obsessed then abstinance is the only way!!
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reader, juliagulia +, writes (3 March 2006):
 Hmmm... well, as a woman, I often enjoy looking at porn, too. It is hard to resist sometimes. But, I find that my imagination works just as well when I am "taking care of business". I don't look at it much because I only have online access at work and I have never gone through the effort to buy my own, but have checked out boyfriend's stuff while they were at work. I respect the fact that you don't want to support the industry and all. Maybe you should try to find other ways to occupy your mind when you think of it. Spend less time online. Read a book instead. Go for a walk. Remind yourself why you want to stop looking at it. When you do look at it, search for things that gross you out. I know that is weird, but sometimes if you just go to the extreme and look at some nasty stuff, that may cure your curiousity for a bit! But if you are only looking once or twice a week for a short amount of time (less than an hour I am assuming since you said one - six hours is a binge) I don't think that is detrimental in any way and it seems to keep you from going overboard. Good luck, and do what makes you happy!
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