Angry boyfriend won't go to counceling even though he promised

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I love my boyfriend very much. We have only been together for about 7 months but spent close to everyday around the clock together the whole time so we are very close and very used to one another being there. I know I should have left him, many of my friends tell me I deserve better blah blah blah, but there is just something that draws me to this man.....anyways Here is my question. We got into some pretty bad fights....the worst being recently after we were living with eachother for 2weeks. He was so terrible that I kicked him out, broke up with him and told him that i didnt want to see him ever again. He begged and cried and promised me everything under thee sun to get me to give him "one more chance". Problem is that was his "one more chance" already from a previous fight. So then he comes up with he will seek counceling for his anger. I gave in. Although I still havent given him a key and I made him keep his things at his brothers, he has been over every night. He tells me now he doesnt believe that he actually needs Anger Management, He just needs somewhere to put his anger which he has decieded he will work out more regularly. He says its worked before, (and I did notice he was a lot happier when he was working out every other day) But I feel lied to and tricked. I dont think he ever had any intention of going to counceling, just telling me what i want to hear. So the other day I freaked out realizing I'm actually a little scared of him and his anger to the point I was afraid to disagree with him to save an arguement.....then I woke up and said wait a fricken minute.....You need to re evaluate this. I told him I needed space and I was upset that we were no longer on the same page (counceling) and to top it off its been over a week since I took him back and he hasnt worked out not once, and he hasnt had to work because they gave him a raise and transfered him so he had 4 days off in a row.

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