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writes:I was with him for 3 years. We loved and cared for each other more than anything. But now every day I hurt and I cry and I'm so sad to be without him.This initial break up happened about two months ago and since then we've spoken, yelled, argued, loved and been with each other since. But as of the most recent, I last saw him on the 4th of July. It had been a lovely few weeks that we'd been seeing each other again since the initial break up, everything just falls into place when we're with each other...But I don't understand where all the complication comes into play.The very last I spoke to him was the other night and it involved so much chaos. First off I was angry because he's looking for places to move and he looked at a room at my friends place. I called him and told him not to move in with my friends, that if he wants to be away from me, then stay away from me. I just got so upset and angry at so many things. He told me that he's moving to a different apartment with the people he's already living with, so that made me feel a bit more at ease.But this is all not the point, the point is, I dont understand why him and I can't be together. We love each other immensely and our connection is so strong and there, I just want all this bullshit and anger to go away and be put aside but it seems as though every time I try and speak with him or contact him or anything he tells me that he needs patience and space from me and respect. I feel like I need the same from him but all we end up doing when we talk is argue and get angry at each other at the end. All I want to be able to do is sit with him at home and make him dinner, love him and be there for him and for things to just be simple. I don't understand what happened or what went wrong and why things are the way they are right now. I hurt so much, I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I feel like my life is a mess without him and all I want is love. Why is that so hard? Why is all of this so hard? Reply to this Question
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reader, alien invasion +, writes (21 July 2013):
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reader, happy1day  +, writes (21 July 2013):
Let him go...The hardest thing you will ever do. Let him go and start living your life for you. Only you can make YOU happy. Stop dwelling over how/ what went wrong it will only serve to drive you insane.Give yourself time patience and respect, he knows what you want and how hurt, angry and desperate you feel. He may come back to you if he wants and not because of what you want...in his way and in his time. You have made your feelings clear to him. Now stop. Try hard not to contact him...each day will be hard but a little easier...wait for him to come back in his way and his time...if he doesn't...what have you lost? Nothing as he was never meant to he yours. Good luck.
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reader, happy1day +, writes (20 July 2013):
Let him go...The hardest thing you will ever do. Let him go and start living your life for you. Only you can make YOU happy. Stop dwelling over how/ what went wrong it will only serve to drive you insane.Give yourself time patience and respect, he knows what you want and how hurt, angry and desperate you feel. He may come back to you if he wants and not because of what you want...in his way and in his time. You have made your feelings clear to him. Now stop. Try hard not to contact him...each day will be hard but a little easier...wait for him to come back in his way and his time...if he doesn't...what have you lost? Nothing as he was never meant to he yours. Good luck.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 July 2013):
 You write, "...and all I want is love. Why is that so hard?"
It's "hard" because you have chosen to fall in love with a guy who cares not a whit for - or, about - you.....
IF and WHEN you decide to focus upon a guy - any guy - who is truly interested in you... who likes you, and loves you... then that question will disappear.
It will NOT disappear.... and, in fact, will fester and make you even more miserable, as long as you convince yourself that THIS GUY is - in some unfathomable manner - good for you. He's not....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): This is the link of my article.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/-forget--someone-you-love--the.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): Maybe you should read my article about forgetting someone the quickest way.
I honestly think you need to read it.
The reason why its hard because its what you put on your mind.
If you will try to divert your attention to other things, then it will also change the way you feel.
He have move on.
And your still crazy over him.
Why waste time, effort and tears over a guy who have move on?
If he see you sad and blue, will it make him come back to you? Do you really think it will make him change his mind if he knows that your still not over him?
We both know the answer.
NO.
Now, what to do?
Compose your thoughts well.
Think about all the bad stuff about him
Write it down.
Then ask yourself.
Say his tactless, or say he has halitosis.
Ask yourself, do i really want a person who has a bad breath? Or a person who's not careful with his words?
You can make your own list.
Its just a sample. You need to help yourself,
Remember No one can help you change your mind, BUT JUST YOU.
People can give advises to help you out, but at the end of the day, its still your choice.
lastly,
Do me a favor read my article. and start following my tips on how to forget someone you love.
Good Luck, You can do it!
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