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writes:Thank you for your advice and this is just an update and not another issue. I found a more indirect way to cure my curiosity I Myspace him. I found out that he has a girlfriend named Monique and yes she is black. He said that he loved her on his myspace page so it sounds serious. I don't wish bad on anyone so I not wishing for them to breakup. I will do the noble thing by moving on with my life and stepping away from the situation. I just feel like I am running away from my feelings and that is the last thing I want to do. But he has a girlfriend that he loves and basketball season is over so there is no other way to get in contact with him. To make it even worst these feelings have yet to cease(even with prayer they are still here). I know it is wrong for me to hope but I can't help the way I feel so is it wrong of me to move on with my life even though I'm still here wishing I was in Monique's(his girlfriend)shoes, in his arms, in his heart and not her. I need advice on how to get rid of these feelings. Please don't suggest another boy because I have tried that and it only got me more awkward feelings and less friends. If you have a myspace account and wish to see what I am talking about his page is www.myspace.com/srw24.I am tired of putting my life on hold. My friends and family are starting to notice something is different because it shows all over my face. My friends are always asking what’s wrong and they say that I look so sad. I have had many crushes in my life and I have seem to let all of them go and put them behind me except this one. Why? Why him? He is the only one that has ever made me cry(when the realization set in that we will never be together). I am tried feeling like some psycho woman with a crazy obsession. I don't know what I want but I do know I want peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your words of wisdom. I will admit I am trying to move on and I still catch myself thinking about him. Then I stop myself and I change my train of thought. Your words really help and I really appreciate it. With life other aspects this just felt like a ton on me. Your words and relieve of this pressure. I know that years down the road when I think back about this and question whether I should approach him or not. I will remember your words and realize that I did the right thing for me at the time which is move on.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Oh darling what an awful way to find out that he has somone else,please don't feel like this wish I could cuddle you and tell you it will be ok...There is nothing wrong with you wishing you were in her shoes we have all felt like that at some stage in our live, I know I have, and it is so so so hard to move on its easy to say find someone else I know...., but please look in the mirror at yourself your beautiful and there is a guy out there somewhere darling and he will find you trust me please.....
Please darling talk to your friends they obviously don't like seeing you look sad and I am sure your family would be hurt to know you are suffering this pain in silence...glad you are talking to me though because if your still reading this then you just know that someone is here to try and help, I am not a councilor or no expert just had experiences in life that has now made me a bit wiser....
I had a boyfriend once who just meant the whole wide world to me he was the only one who made me cry too I was miserable for months but I did meet someone else and I married him and had two beautiful daughters I still wonder sometimes how he is but you know what babe, he made me miserabe thats no way to be feeling in life, I know your thinking oh shut up and that you really love this guy and there really is not anyone else no matter what anyone says, I know I used to think the same,
Go out with your friends babe please just take one day at a time don't feel weighed down by all your emotions your young and if I could turn back the clocks I would take me own advise right now
Please take care of yourself sweet heart I will be thinking of you darling gather that inner strength focus all that hurt into something good go on make me proud
I know you can do it I just know
Keep me up dated sweet
xxxx
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