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writes:my bestfriend and I been friends for over 10 years good bad happy and sad. I had a beautiful baby boy in 2006 and of course she is the nanny. My son is 4 years old and she hasn't did anything for him haven't brought nothing ! I can only recall her buying things when he was under 1 years old which was like 3 things total. We have had argurments about her not doing anybody for my son to where I just forgot about his father and I are the god parents . Now she just had a girl in Dec of 2009 and ask me to be the godmother I wanted to say no just like she doesn't do nothing for my son I don't do nothing for her daughter am I wrong ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (17 March 2010):
 I'm confused, why do you think she should buy things for your son? You're his mother... I'm sure she doesnt mean she wants you to be the godmother so you can provide her child with anything material, just love and security.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 March 2010):
You don't become a Godmother expecting things for your own child. That is not part of the deal. The idea of being a Godmother is out of love and nothing else. If you are expecting anything in return, then it's not for you.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (17 March 2010):
 I don't understand why you DO expect her to give you/your son all these things, can you not provide them for yourself? I was under the impression ( I don't have one but I've heard) a godparent's role is to provide spiritual comfort and moral guidance, not presents. I think it's selfish that you feel this friend owes you gifts for YOUR son, some people have friendships not based on presents, but if you can't handle that kind of relationship maybe you should come clean.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 March 2010):
 I think yo uneed to reconsider WHY you ask someone to be their Godmother, it is NOT just about material stuff...
But if you don't want the responsibility that IS being a Godmother tell her no.
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