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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Let me get to the point, Am I wrong for wanting to go out with this guy I call a friend; even if I do have a boyfriend? I like this guy (friend) physically and he has a good personality, but I don't want to be doing anything wrong that can affect my relationship with my boyfriend. I try talking to my boyfriend about me hanging with this guy but he didn't give me a clear answer. He just fake like he was hanging with some other girl and I got mad cause I thought he was 4 real but it was to see my reaction (I didn't like it).He has girls he talk to over the phone every now and then. They are older women, I don't talk to my friend everyday and we never hung out before but I like his company. My friend knows I have a boyfriend and says he respect our relationship, he will not do anything he wouldn't want a guy doing to his little sister. I feel guilty if I do and sad if I don't. Should I just go? Its one movie... Reply to this Question
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (6 April 2009):
 No you shouldn't. It definitely seems like you view this guy as more than just a friend.Plus to be honest, unless there's a movie you're absolutely dying to see I don't know many girls in relationships that go to the movies with their single male friends.I'm a single female and while I often hang out with some of my male friends that are in relationships, doing things like going to the movies alone isn't amongst our activities. You don't like him hanging out with other girls, but you see no problem with yourself hanging out with this friend?At the end of the day it doesn't matter if this guy says he will respect you, because he's not in the relationship. You are, and it's up to you to respect the relationship - not an outsider.If it's just his company you enjoy then why not invite him out in a group situation or introduce him to your boyfriend?
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