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writes:I have a dilemma. I have a boyfriend for the first time and I really like him. I'm pretty crazy about him actually. I'm a junior in high school and I'm pretty new to the whole boyfriend thing. However, he has asked if I want to have sex and I don't know if I am ready for that. Sometimes I think I'm ready, and then other times I just don't know. It's not that I don't want to give up my virginity to him, it's more the fact I feel as though I will disappoint other people, even by not telling them, especially my parents who tell me to wait until I'm older. So I guess my real question is, am I too young? Should I wait, and tell him I'm just not ready yet? I know that's a hard question to answer for someone else, but I'm curious as to what other people have to say about it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses. They really helped give me a better outlook on everything.
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reader, Figster86  +, writes (12 January 2009):
The fact is you will know when your ready as you wont need to question it. but remember the fisrt time will always be scary you just have to realise the differance between scary and time being wrong and dont let anyone pressure you into sex it should come naturally and only when your 100% sure YOU want to. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): You *should* feel ready when you won't have any problem if everyone (family, friends, strangers etc) around you knew that you did it and with whom you did it (in fact you should feel good, even proud, about everyone knowing this), when you're a responsible adult ready to take care of a baby in a healthy environment (that includes the father of the baby) ... and yes, I'm aware of the existence of contraceptive pills & condoms, even abortion ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): hunni only lose your virginity when you are ready! dont lose it when your not ready and never feel like you are being pressured into it!! only do what you feel is right! its a precious thing it might not seem like it means much just now but sex can complicate a relationship especially if you have never had sex before and if yous broke up it might make you feel like you have been used sweetheart! your still young and you are going to lose your virginity at some point and dont be afarid that people will be dissapointed in you as long as your not disspointed in yourself! just do what you thinks right and be happy with your decision hun!
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reader, bookiebabyyy +, writes (11 January 2009):
If your having doubts think it over until you know
what you really want. You should tell him how you
feel about the whole situation if he doesn't agree
with you than you should leave him any guy who doesn't
respect your beliefs isn't the kind of man you need
in your life.
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reader, Miggy +, writes (11 January 2009):
I think that if your unsure at all, then its best to wait until your certain that having sex is what you want to do. I don't know about the age thing, I think it is more to do with whether or not your sure.
anyway, hope that helped!
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