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writes:I went on two really great dates recently with a girl I met at my college through a friend. It seemed as those we connected in every way. After the second date things seemed to fizzle out. I wonder why until a friend on mine told me that he had ran into her. I asked him if she had mentioned me. He replied that she had a lot of good things to say such as "oh he's really funny and attractive". When he asked if she was still interested in me her response was simply, "He's too short". I feel really hurt by this and it has made me extremely self-conscious. There wasn't even much height difference. I'm 5'6'' and she was 5'3''. This comment has really made me doubtful as to how much I stand a chance in this competitive dating world. If we hit it off so wonderfully and ultimately it was my height, something I have no control over, which canceled her idea of continuing to go on date with me I feel like my chances with other women are doubtful. Reply to this Question
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 Hey,
Her opinion doesn't speak for every woman!! Just because she likes taller men, it doesn't mean every girl likes taller men. She has a shallow attitude. Remember, it is the person, the nature, the whole package!
Hannah xx
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reader, meggiemuffin9565 +, writes (16 April 2009):
dont feel that was because there is somebody out there for everyone and you cant make yourself grow... unless u wear highheels but guys dont do that, so move on and you'll find someone who wont care how tall or how short u r but they'll only care whats on the inside.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): i like short guys i find them cute!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): I am 5ft5 and i have dated men at 5ft3! I have no height issues, if you are a nice person with a good sense of humour that is all I care for. And there are a lot more girls like me. Dont worry at all, she is the one missing out! If she finds anybody at the right height for her he might be a twat anyway! So she has missed out big time! But dont let it lower ur self esteem! every girl likes different, u will defo find somebody!
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reader, unluckyinlove45 +, writes (16 April 2009):
 mate dun worry i am only 5ft 4 or summink like thai met up wit this girlshes a bit taller dan me and we are dating like now.so it can happen you just gta find da right one who likes you for who you are not how tall you are.best of luck mate (Y)J x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): I totally understand where you're coming from. I'm around your height too and it can be more frustrating than anything that people can think you're a great guy but then the only thing that they hang on is that you're short. I mean it's not like the end of the world or anything just because we're shorter. I think film and televison has created this 'idea' romantic couple where the guy is tall (at least much taller) than the girl and then things work out perfectly for them and all is well. Part of it is also that some girls may think that guys who aren't tall are not as able to take care of them or protect them or something, which is not necessarily true either. I'm very interested in other people's thoughts on this as well.I agree that she is being shallow to say that is the reason she doesn't want to go out with you, if she realizes you're a great guy and that your height is the only thing stopping her, then she's only hurting herself by missing out on an opportunity. Try not to worry about it too much, you'll find someone who cares for you, not your height.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (16 April 2009):
 nooo not at all!!she's clearly just being picky alot of girls like really tall guys!i'm not too sure why but that doesn't mean you won't find anyone not all girls are that picky.but if you guys got on so well she shouldn't of blown you off because of your height.that's a bit shallow tbh.but hey don't let that stop you dating and finding the right girl not all of them will be bothered by the height difference.Best of luck to you hun :)would love to hear an update.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): We're all the same height lying down! Lol. Seriously, there are plenty of short guys and she was just being incredibly shallow. Move on and find someone deserving of your charm. If you worry about it then everyone else will.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (16 April 2009):
 Ultimately it is the fact that this girl is shallow that ended this. Surely she realised what height you were before the first date? That is irrelevent though.Sure you're not going to be the tallest male in the room, but I really don't think it will hurt your chances with ladies in the future at all.Trust me on that.
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