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30-35,
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writes:i have a boyfriend. he is older than me for about 7 years. at first our relationship is so good. but the dilemna came when the time that my x-bf texted me and he's the one who receives it. he asked me who is he and because i get nervous, i lied to him. i said he was my mate's bf. he did not belive me. until when he got home,i texted him that it was my x-bf. he got angry because i lied to him. until such time last Wednesday night, we were quarelling. but its not that we got separated. its just we dont have no good relation. is it me who is to blame?what should i do in order for me to get his trust and his love back? and how should i know if he still loves me? helllpppp!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 I think neither one of you is to blame. It just didn't work out. Now why did he have to ask who it was with the text message. What happened is a series of events. His questioning the text, then your lie didn't help out. Lying is deceit. When lying about a text message, it's saying "i have something to hide."
I don't think it's time for you to earn his trust back. I want you to figure out, what makes you nervous in the first place. How was your relationship with your ex's? Were you ever overly accused of wrongdoing that no matter what you said, they didn't believe.
Since the lie was part of the cause on your side, before getting back with him you have to get your nervousness under control or this reaction is going to repeat its self.
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reader, Emma99  +, writes (4 October 2007):
He is being a jerk!! He would have gotten mad whether or not you lied, because he doesn't want you and your exbf to text... it's not good to lie, I know, but you were in a tough situation and you made it right. So if he is keeping up the quarrel with you, why? Is he right for you? Don't worry about whether he still loves you... just hang cool, trust yourself, and if this guy bails, there'll be another for you with better self-confidence...
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