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*skingDearCupid
writes:Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 9 months now. We've been doing oral and recently sex. I have a few questions regarding ejaculation? When I first started giving him blowjobs, before, it took like, 15 minutes, but now i can't get him to ejaculate anymore at all. He gets really hard, but just doesn't come. I've learned a lot more since then, and he's even said that i've gotten way better at it, but I don't know whats going on because it used to be so much easier and now its not. He's been pretty stressed over these past few months (it's been that long since the last time) and is experiencing depression, so I don't know if that's what's affecting this...Anyway I'm wondering a bit, so I mentioned earlier that we have sex. He gets to ejaculation with sex but not with blowjobs? Totally confused here. Could it be that he's just lost his physical attraction to me or is it his depression or something else beyond our control? We've tried having me give him a blowjob right after sex (I have him pull out), but that doesn't seem to do it either. Seriously am I just that bad at this or is he just really difficult to please?Any advice? What do you think could be it or what could I do better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): As much as I love a good blowjob, it's very rare that they'll make me ejaculate. Always been that way, with a number of different women.
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reader, AskingDearCupid +, writes (27 May 2009):
AskingDearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the question:) thanks for all of your help so far!!! I really appreciate it! I have another question for you, now that he's experienced sex, will he be able to get to ejaculation with a blowjob at all anymore or will he be able to, but it'll just take longer?
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reader, Pandaholic123 +, writes (27 May 2009):
 Mhm. "Niki20" Is soo right. now that you've had sex, his body is used to a different type of stimulation now. Nothing is wrong with you =) You are fine and so is he. Its all normal stuff- makes it kinda dumb when you wanna change it up a bit and can't really get the whole "BANG" (lol) out of it, but it's alright... =)M.Marie...
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reader, niki20 +, writes (27 May 2009):
 hun, hes had a tasteof you (having sex) and now his mind automatically thinks of that. my husband doesnt get off w/blow jobs or anything either but when it comes to sex same situation you have. if you enjoy sex have it more it more often (with protection of course) he got use to the hand jobs the blowjobs, etc. so its not that hes not attracted to you, its that he doesnt get the stimulation he gets when he has sex w/you.
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