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writes:Ermm.. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4months a few weeks ago. Now, he's with one of my close friends. I really support them, and wish them the best. I thought I could get over him and I thought I did. I guess I was wrong. Whenever he talks to me online, I'll think to myself "Does he still love me?" or something like that. I'm not sure if I still miss him. Now, I think I am starting to fall for another guy. He's my classmate in school. I once heard from some of my friends that he likes me. And my friends do tell me that we are compatible. I'm not really sure if I am in love with him. I like it when he smiles at me and when he talks to me. I feel really comfortable with him. Sometimes, I do imagine me being together with him. But when my ex comes talking to me, I'll recall what happened when we were together and the happy times I've had with him. Am I still in love with my ex? Do I love my classmate? I really need help. i can't seem to sort of feelings out. Help me please.. I'll really thank you. :))
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): Your situation seems almost like mine except there is nobody else right now that i am interested in. I fell in love with my best friend and a year ago, he told me he wasn't ready for a girlfriend [he had never had one before]. We just stayed best friends who loved to flirt and we talked constantly on the phone. Then in the beginning of this school year we kind of lost contact over the summer so he was all weird around me and didn't really care. Then he sat right next to me in one of my classes where we got to talking again. Sparks flew and I guess he really liked me so he asked me out. After about a week he told me he loved me and i honestly did believe him because I was his first real girlfriend. I was completely in love with him. Until one day he just broke up with me without hearing wat i had to say. he listened to everything that his friends told him instead. after the break up, we talked on the phone and he told me that he was confused about why he broke up with me but he doesnt think that dating a girl twice is right. we flirt A LOT in certain classes and i miss him and i still love him and although im trying to move on, its not really working. Its been almost a month since we broke up and the only advice that i can give you is to try not to think about him and flirt with other guys. ugh im crying writing this because its bringing back the old good memories me and him had. but okay, if i can get threw this so can you. just be strong, dont let him see your hurting.
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reader, lemonstarxx +, writes (22 August 2007):
lemonstarxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the advice guys! They really do help. Now, though I've told my classmate how I feel, he said that he didn't have feelings for me, and just wants to be friends. But for now, he is treating me as usual, really nice. But now, I think I have a much bigger problem in my head now. Today, I talked to my ex, as he and his friends have been calling me a bitch, I decided I'll just go up to him and start scolding him in revenge. So, I went online and started messaging him. But, not knowing that the one that is online is not him, is his mom. And now, his mom wants to go to the principal to complain about what I said. Though I said sorry, I really don't know if she will forgive me and drop this matter. I'm so worried. What if I get in trouble? Can someone help? Please! Thanks! :D
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reader, crazyone  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 That's normal.I broke up with a guy and liked him 2years later.Just try your best tell yourself know that your not together anymore.Why don't you try to get another boyfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): well, you seem pretty young so I'd just wait. You've got a lot ahead of you so just be patiant. If a guy asks you out just say "yes" or "no". simple. i wouldnt worry about boys when there's better stuff to do when your young. (i would know). So just chill, relax and have fun while you still can :D hope this helped :))XxXxX
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reader, A?ie xo.  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Your a bit youndger than me but i thought id let you know your not the only one dealing with the 'im still in love with my ex' situation. im falling apart over my brerak up with my boyfriend and now hes gone off with my best mate and its tearing me apart but there are other lads inmy life where i think awww they're lovely and your happy around them but your ex seems to overrule all these nice boys..yep i know exactly how you feel sweetheart. its called being a teenager. can i give you some advice though just leave your ex be, its hard cozz you just want what you had back but im telling you out of many past experiances for some reason it doesn't quite work and they're on your mind constantly, you walk into your room and theers pictures of you and him together, you get butterflies when he pops up online. itss soooo hard but you have to tryy to get him off your mind dont be predictable.. dont tell him how you feel.. flirt with these other guys and show him you're having a good time without him..why not give this lad a shot?? dnt rush into though because it would be a shame to hurt him because your feelings are stronger for your ex which is another mistake i made..im kinda babling on but if you ever need to talk add [email address blocked] =) orr you can catch me on here.
hope this kinda helps lol
Love Amie xx
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reader, blazee +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Sounds like you're still thinking about your last relationship and because you havent been involved with anyoneelse since and your ex is still talking to you, thats why your feeling like that. I think if you like this other boy and start dating you will be over this other boy. Maybe not straight away but if things go right with you two i think ur ex would be history;) good luck hun x
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reader, Ladyme  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 HeyMaybe your just hanging onto the memories and how you and ur ex were before you split up, which is only natural but if you 2 did get back together would the reason why you split up be solved? It sounds like you really like your classmate, try to hang around with him as much as you can and the closer you and him get it's possible that the memories will go as well. I know that me and my boyfriend of 2 years kept splitting up and no matter what I couldn't get him out of my head, the only way i got him out of my head and the memories to go was by being mad at him but we still got back togter.You just need to think do you love your ex because you miss him or is it because deep down one of your close mates is going out with him?Hope this helps =] xxx
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