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male
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:My gf and I used to date three years ago for about two months and she broke up with me cause things got too heavy too fast. I was devastated. After a while we became friends again. We work together but not in the same department. Any ways, we started dating again almost three months ago, the first month and a half was really great and then we decided to slow things down. I was over there all the time in the beginning, but now I rarely get to see her outside of work. This past weekend she got really really sick and i received a text from her very early in the morning so I went and spent all day with her, bought her medicine, took care of her. Was there all day and nite. Fastforward now a few days later, she hasn't been at work cause she's gotten worse so ive been calling her every day at least once or text her and ask if there's anything i can do for her and that i love her. But i've noticed that she doesn't return my texts and doesn't answer her phone when i call her. a good friend of mine said i am smothering her and that her not answering me is her way of trying to tell me that she's getting annoyed. So i've backed off, but not completely. I know my friend is right, but at the same time, i'm very compassionate towards my family and friends and especially above all my girlfriend who has children who don't help her around the house. She is very independent and self sufficient, which is one of the many qualities I love about her. I know not to call her or text hardly at all, to give her space but at the same time, i've been hurt and get scared that I will receive a text from her saying we need to talk which brings back memories from the last time we were together. She says i'm the first guy who ever showed any interest in her children or who even wanted to spend time with them and help them with homework and so forth. Is there anything else I need to do? Or should I just keep going the way that I am? Thanks!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 October 2010):
 If she's stopped returning calls or texts you are very likely smothering her a bit. Back off. Instead just send her a text letting her know you're thinking about her. Something like "I'm thinking about you. I hope you're starting to feel better." Leave it at that. Nothing that needs to be followed up on or returned. That way you can feel better and she doesn't feel pressured, but gets a nice reminder that you've got her in your thoughts.
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