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writes:I am an Asian lady and dated a Caucasian guy for almost 2 months. He's the same age as me. I recently backed off from seeing him as I felt he didn't put in enough effort to make the relationship work or go further. It seems he's only interested in me physically but couldn't be bothered to get to know me as a person or tried to emotionally satisfy me. As we always ended up getting intimate after each date, I felt he only wants to have sex with me although he did tell me it's more than just lust that he's feeling. I told him I can't do it unless I know he really cares about me. We have stopped communicating altogether now. I mean if a man really loves a woman, he should respect her decision. So am I right to say he just wanted sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 I would have said that it didn't sound like it, but when you mentioned you had not communicated for a while, it made me think. It does sound like he was just after sex. Only because he hasn't communicated with you or tried to win you back in any way. That's the only real reason.
Wishing you the best.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Hi,
Not Necessarily, he may have had strong feelings for you. I think its natural to want to make love when you are first with a new person. Did you try to explain how you felt?.
The thing that I dont understand is why he hasn't tried to persue you, to make sure that you realise that he wasn't just after one thing. Unless you can get him to talk things over with you, then I guess you have to let him go.
Try to have a bit more of an open mind next time around. And dont have sex to soon, its much easier to find out if a man likes you if you wait a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): It sounds like it.
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