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writes: hi--been with my b/f for a year and a half.He dropped me off last night around 10 or so..we spent the day at his house with his family for a relative's birthday--i said in the car--we will talk later and he just says maybe--and i guess he was joking around but i dont like jokes like that--anyway--i call at about 1am(we do talk late usually anyway) and no answer which i thought was weird--even if he is sleeping he usually answers the phone..i text message and no answer..i call him in the morning and i said you were sleeping and he said yeah i said you usually answer--he says well you could have called a little earlier and what do you want from me?(meaning like what can he do about it) I get worried thinking--he went with some girl or something and that is why he did not pick up? should i suspect something? he says he fell asleep on the couch and i am assuming his cell was close by or in the room and his phone is on ringer so why wouldnt that wake up him? He uses the cell as an alarm even---so if that wakes him up--wouldnt a regular phone call do the same?
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reader, jack23 +, writes (10 October 2006):
 If you have been with him for a year and half, I think you would have a good understanding of your boyfriend and it would be worth asking yourself if you have had any suspicions in the past??
If this is a one off, chances are your worrying about nothing. I would just leave it, as to talk to him bout it may upset him that you dont trust him and may make him think you are being too clingy. Instead I would forget about it and only question it if something else happens or is said that pushes you to believe that something is going on.
I always have my fone on and do wake up to answer any calls, but sometimes when in deep sleep, dont hear my fone at all. When you get into a routine of waking up at a certain time your body prepares and starts to wake, so people more often than not hear their alarm go off, but are oblvious to any other noises during the night.
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (10 October 2006):
 You are going overboard, if this is the first time he didn't pick up. If this was the fiftieth time you could not be faulted for being suspicious.
Either you trust him or you don't. If you don't, you are going to prove your suspicions right by pushing him into the arms of another woman. If you trust him, you wouldn't think twice about him not picking up the phone.
So you can choose trust or you can choose torment. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Beckah  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 Well firstly, it sounds like your tormenting yourself about this, which isn't healthy and right. Ok so i'm going to put myself in your situation...I would do one of two things, first off i would talk to him, explain that you felt there was something wrong, a lack of communication somewhere down the line and hope to make a mense. OR i would play it cool with him, not in a cruel way. I would just lean off, don't ring him, don't text him late at night. Reply or answer if he rings you, but otherwise don't bother...and i know if your like me you'd be sat by the phone waiting for him to ring, but this is HIS time to shine. More than likely in this scenario, he'll be either sat up wondering why you haven't rang, wondering where YOU are. Or he'll be quite happily entertaining himself with something (or someone) else. Either way you will find out the truth, and i would chance it to be the first option. Have you ever grown so used to something happening it becomes predictable, and a little boring, well this might just be what he is feeling but has a hard time telling you. If he is playing away, which i hope he isn't, we'll there are plenty more fish in the sea and from the sounds of it, you can do so much better than him.
This is for you to decide, i don't know your boyfriend, but you do...nobody is telling you to do or not do anything, you are your own person.
Hope i've helped.
xxx
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 I think it does look suspicious. When someone changes their habits its usually something fishy but not all the time. I think you need to find out a little more before you can make a wise decision.
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