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writes:My partner was working on a woman's house last week and is now doing some (more) work for her. His brother was meant to be helping on the job, but he says he's doing it on his own now. Her number was on the phone but not saved. He said he topped up his phone last Thursday because she contacted him about parts. He topped up £10. I looked on the call history to the number and she called him yesterday for 15 mins he had also contacted her but it shows he was only on phone seconds to her. He says he's never met her before but turns out she is sister of his pal. That's how he is doing the job. Last week it was Mrs such-n-such sounded like an old woman. But she is not. On the call history it clearly shows they had contact in Sept August and June. He was meant to be doing work for her on Sat for couple of hours now its been brought forward to tonight. She is picking him up because he doesn't have a car. He went into detail that she would be going out to football so she wouldn't be hovering over him. And she has darts on Thursday night which I didn't need to know. But she would take him back when he is.finished. His brother is helping next week but he will be going back with him apparently as there is lots of work. I'm not happy I asked him about the calls especially yesterday on the phone 15 mins when he was meant to be working. He went mad an went off to bed in said the only person he spoke to for 15 mins was me. No no I had three calls that were not more than 8 mins in total and now he has no credit on his phone. He says he's never had contact with her before. He has been moody lately and blows up. He comes home straight from work. He doesn't hide his phone as such but it's in another room on silent. U cant check it as there is never room for new messages. We haven't been very intimate lately apart from just getting his ends met. He talks me. He loves me all the time but goes on about mu weight and appearance. I've just had a operation. He is distant and I see him smiling to himself. Sometimes he showers me with attention then when I touch him he recoils. I don't know what's going on. Now he's off to work at her house today and really I'm not happy about it. We don't even need the money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2015): He is cheating that is why he blows up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2015): I don't think I need to grow up bit thankswhen u have been where i am now I think I need a medal for even having to write to someone for answers. You see it isn't just about this fone call granted me cant give me the answers I need. He is adamant he didn't make or speak to the woman apart from last week. I don't know u texted the number off my fone last night to get picked up to go to the job. Offered me along to hold his torch. Said they were going out. It all stems from the beginning over two years ago when he was obviously having a relationship with this silly girl n when I was working away he was obviously still seeing her. I didn't know till i seen the texts and that was only after id moved into his hous n moved hundreds of miles away to be with him. It clearly said in the text thanks for the sex it was awesome. N another it was their wee secret m another he was waiting out pub for her. He should have just punched me in the face but I only could out after id moved here. He said he didn't cheat because he couldn't get it up drunkenly. I said where did it happen he said not here. But internet is a great thing the silly wee slapper had posted fotos of our bedroom lights n comatosed in our bath. This was from before we had moved into the house n it was still not finished. So moving on 17 months later after I did find out n a operation on my shoulder cause I went crazy n he pushed me resulting I cant work just now lost thousands n wages, living off him. I don't go out I've no confidence left, I've put on three stone. I don't trust anyone. Hes sorry about my shoulder it wasn't delierate but I have no money n when I did get some I had to buy the shopping in which i didn't mind but I had a car accident as well n finally got paid out, n I bought us annew couch n bed n put the money on his account because I had bank charges, I was keeping some for Xmas n to pay off a fine, but there should still have been 1400 pounds we went away for a week n apparently it was my money that paid for the lot n I've nothing for Xmas cant pay my fine n waiting on police to lift me because I cant ask him for money as he looks at me bankly on says I've spent it all. He makes a fortune in gives me anything I need for the house but I bought some wool to knit some things to sell with £20 he gave me then when I go the money for the items he said I could buy him a case of lager for starting me off. So really would like to say I never look near his fone but I happened to be holding it when he was using my fone to call people n seen the calls to this number. So my mind went into overdrive. He has been distant but he's always in after work n he never on his fone or internet and he is always telling me he loves me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2015): "Am I right to be suspicious of this woman"
No. You should be suspicious of your boyfriend.
"I don't know what to think."
I would think that you're shacking up with a lying, manipulative, verbally abusive scumbag whom you know first-hand is a cheater and who is going to deny anything you can't prove and throw back in your face anything you can prove to put you on the defensive.
You can either continue to allow him to tell you what you want to hear while treating you with abject contempt or you can trust your instincts, respond accordingly and stand up for yourself.
Men can't disrespect women who respect themselves.
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reader, MSA  +, writes (2 December 2015):
 While reading your post, I get the feeling that you are lacking love and attention, therefore feeling a bit insecure in this relationship. Stop over thinking!! Learn to TRUST your man and please, STOP looking at his call log on his phone trying to analyze every little thing.
He is doing some work on her house, they do need to communicate prior and during the work so as to be clear what needs to be done. Just because they talked, and whether he remembers in detail or not, does not mean he is having a romantic affair with her!! Please calm down!!
Again, please TRUST him!! If you need some attention and affection, talk to him and ask him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2015): How much proof do you need? He's already proven hself to be a cheat and liar. Is this Part II of the same story? You are both playing cat and mouse. Grow up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2015): Ps he just came in by and broached the subject and said he had looked on his call history and there wasn't history. He went look and still it shows she had called me yesterday and there was a 11.30 min call and Sept to the number. He said he cant explain it as he has never been there before. I talked to 02 and they said u cant argue with the call history and they would have to have contact before. He said give me your phone so I can ring and cancel the job because he's done nothing. I felt bad and said no its ok. Look I wouldn't be suspicious but he was cheating at very start of our relationship. I found messages etc for a young woman and he denies it still to this day. He has phoned dex.lines before when I've been away working. OK that all stopped when I confronted him but I cant always feel like I can trust him now. I'm wary of being hurt again. I don't know what to think.
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