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writes:I met this man during my divorce. I am 47 and been together for 6 months. I have Christmas at work but not allowed to take partners. He said we will be over if I go because he doesnt like it. He always emphazise he is a one on one person. He said he cant accept I go to dance without him and allowed other man to chat me up. He always said I am an very attractive woman and all the men would love to have me. He said if I love him then I wouldnt want to go and leave him at home. I just want a night out with workmates. I am faithful and wont let any man take advantages. I dont mind staying home with him but dont like he insist I cant go. Am I right or he is wrong? Please advise.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (21 November 2007):
 Hi. I can see both sides here. I think a little jealousy is unavoidable when relationships are just getting off the ground - particularly when we're older and not teens. You're both right. How about a compromise - what if he dropped you off and picked you up at the end of the evening. He could take a few of your friends home as well. No drink/driving or taxi fares and no worries about you being taken home by someone else. It's an opportunity to show-off your new boyfriend as well.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 It is too much control I do accept. But i do understand that he does not like these parties. Some poeple dont. And if he is not imprsinoning you at home all the time -which of course is not the case- and going out for christmas etc is not the most important thing in your life you may take this as a comprimise for the sake of being with the man you love. If of course you think he has other qualities that attracts and pleases you.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 I agree with that everyone else said. He is too insecure, has trust issues, or is a control freak, one of those, or all of those. He should trust you. If he doesn't trust you why the hell is he going out with you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): Where is this Christmas do, what time, what date?
You've got yourself one asshole there darlin! Get rid, before he completely takes over your life!
Phil
(:o)
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (20 November 2007):
 I agree with Waterloo sunset, this guy is trying to run your life,he is a control freak period. He also has serious trust issues too, if you don't start standing up to him he will walk all over you. Go to your Christmas party and to hell what he says, if he threatens to finish with you SHOW THE LOSER THE DOOR. There is nothing you can do to change his way of thinking, being with each other 24/7 which is very unhealthy for any relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): Please dont let him run your life! You have a right to go where you want and with who, within reason, just so long as you are not dating anyone behind his back. But stop listening to him if he says it will be over if you go to your works do without him. He needs to grow up and take a reality check! You shouldnt let him decide what you are going to do now, not now or ever. If he is like this now what will he be like in the future. Domineering! You wont be able to go out of the house without his permission. I know what it is like, my first husband started off just the same way.Put your foot down now and mean it. Go to the Christmas do and have a drink on me!!!!!!!
take care
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