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*ostinlove1001
writes:Ok, here it is. I have my sights set on a legitimately busy man. He is a general contractor working on my brothers home. I asked him out, he said yes, asked me to pick a time and day. The day of, he had to cancel for confirmed business related reasons. He apologized and said definitely another night. I told him I'd check my schedule and call him back.I called him the following week, left him a message but heard nothing back. Me, never deterred, called him about a month later. He answered and sounded excited to hear from me. We were on the line for a while making small talk and such. I asked him about coming out to finish some work. He said he would and asked if I'd be there because he wanted to see me. I told him I would and he told me we could decide where we are going to go for our little get together. My question is, the work is about three weeks away and I really didn't want to wait that long. Would it be safe to say there is interest there and would it be ok if I called sometime this week to suggest a cup of coffee or lunch?I knew getting into to this that he was a really busy guy and I don't mind the chase but I just don't want to come off as too pushy. As an addendum I'd like to add that he is not the type to "keep it going" if not interested. Wouldn't he have said leave me alone, in a nice way, by now if he didn't want anything? Reply to this Question
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Let him make the next move. You have initiated twice, its his turn. If he really wants to see you he will make the time. If he doesnt contact you before the work date, leave it alone. See how it goes in 3 weeks, but I say the next move is up to him.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 I think it'd be pretty safe to ask him if he wants to go out for coffee at some point in the next three weeks for sure. Maybe call him in one and a half weeks if you're worried about coming across as pushy.
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