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41-50,
*ricky flicky
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year, we hav split up a few times because he lies about the girls he has been with when we have been on a brake, i make sure that im completely honest with him as i no the truth always comes out.We are back together now but he still gets txts off the girls he went with, he says he doesnt txt them back but i think he does,im just so paranoid all the time.I really love him but i dont trust him.I dont no wot to do? I no he cheated on past girlfriends alot, please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): No you're not being paranoid and when I read your story I thought you were in a teenage relationship. Time to dump him & get into an adult relationship with a real man.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (31 October 2007):
 Hello Tricky Flicky.
Do not worry your Not paranoid, you are suffering from a condition called (i now this guy is a dirty cheating, lying, unfaithful, breaking my heart, making me cry, he is a plank syndrome)your mind is telling you that he is no good for you and your heart is telling you, that you love him, some times we all let our hearts rule our heads, and some time because of this we all have the fear of being alone, or it feels that if a relationship ends it is our faults and we are a failure, but believe me your NOT, none of this is your fault, he is a two timing muppit, who does not now what a really wonderful person you are, and what a mug he is hurting you in this way.
I now it wont be easy for you but you are not only wasting your life with this person but he is dragging you down in to a dark place, that a lovely person like you does not deserve to be in, it is time now that you starting thinking it is NOT my fault, if he want other girls then he can have them, i wont cry for him any more, i am going to find a guy who wants me, for me and will give me the respect and love i really deserve, and will not hurt me, but treat me with all the love i want and need, drop him sweet heart, you do not need this pain in your life.
I wish you well go and enjoy the rest of your life, with some who cares about YOU.
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 You need to boot this guy as soon as possible. Why do you keep having to get back together - Answer: because the relationship fails over and over and over again.
You deserve a lot better than that. Some of the key components in a relationship is Trust and Honesty - the two going hand in hand, and you have neither of these. Don't keep on punishing yourself by being with him. Get rid of him, get over him, and go on with your life (I know i know - easier said than done) but you'll see, it is worth it in the end.
Good luck...
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