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writes:I really need some prespective on my situation...I'm at a total loss here and I feel like if I don't get this off my chest I'm going to end up causing a fight with my BF He is in Japan for work and I am in the US, so today I called him to chat at our normal time and he was telling me about this ex GF of his, I thought ok fine..everyone has a past...but then I find out that he spoke to her only a few weeks ago! apparently one of them called the other (I don't know which one...) but I guess they broke up because she felt like he wasn't communicating with her..and they ended up discussing how the relationship ended...okay fine...I'm with him now...so I try so hard not to let his past get to me...Anyway he tells me that if a woman doesn't have anything interesting to say and is just a pretty face he gets bored and is no longer interested.....To cut this short...he tells me:that he needs physical attraction as well as mental stimulation in order to be interested in anything long term...so I ask him what it is he is doing with me then as 1) he can't see me aside from mental pictures and 2) I'm a very simple, somewhat boring person who doesn't work and spends most of my time indoors...I mean...I guess I feel like he is telling me he wants/likes things that don't match up with anything we have together...IMOmaybe I am over-thinking...and maybe it shouldn't matter...but if he's telling me this doesn't that say that our relationship won't work long term???
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reader, eddie  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 It sounds like you're over thinking this. He didn't say you lacked anything. It's your poor opinion of yourself that is driving you to this assumption. Don't put words i his mouth and then try to hang him with the words.
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reader, rcn +, writes (27 September 2007):
 They may have discussed their relationship ending to gain closure. Sometimes it's hard to move on, if you don't know how you got to that place in the first place.
Personally I think you may be over thinking. But when in doubt, the best thing to do is ask him directly what that means. Is it something that he said, in general, or applying to your behaviors. It sounds as if that could have been his reasons for not being with his ex as well. With your last answer it looks to me as if he finds interest in you especially how you make him feel as if he's a better person. That doesn't sound like someone who is boring.
I wouldn't worry about it, but if you still do, ask him. Express your concerns and your fears so you can have answers to your questions from him remember, relationships are built on trust and honesty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry rnc.... :)
he basically said that he thinks I have a cute voice and that I make him feel like a better person because I am very open and I tell him how cute and sexy and smart I think he is....
does that help?
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reader, rcn +, writes (27 September 2007):
Please post again, adding what he had said in return from your response. Without it, i really don't have much information to provide you with something that would be as accurate as you need.
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