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anonymous
writes:Im 25 years old, i dont drink much, i keep fit and im happily settled with my long term bf. Everything initially sounds rosy however since ive become happy and settled none of my friends want to know, i constantly try to organise days and nights out with them which doesnt involve alcohol, each and every invitation is either politely declined or ignored. However, if i were to organise a complete drunken piss up there all up for that. I hate binge drinking, when i was younger, i went off the rails abit, i had a string of relationships which went wrong and as a way of coping i went out and drank heavily, making a fool of myself, getting into fights and getting the wrong type of attention from guys. The way i used to behave put me off drink altogether. My question is, is there anyone else out there my age who is like me or am i a saddo who has grown old before her time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): Hey,
Yeah that would be me. I am 23 and I am married and settled. I do old fashioned household chores, make my husbands breakfast, help him get ready for work etc. He does not like me going clubbing, so I do not. I do not drink because I only used to drink when I went out with mates.
I am a housewife, through and through. Was the best thing I ever did? Not really. Not right now. But 10 years later when all my friends are desperatly searching for a man to settle down with- I will already have the whole set up.
It is just a question of cost. The cost of a stable, happy relationship is that you do not get to do the things you used to when you were single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): what you have is great, i was like your friends until i reached 30 years old. I relied on alcohol to make my fun, and a night out without it i spent quiet and conversationless. When i reached 30 i met a great guy, i felt happy with him and 'settled', my friends drifted away and continue to have there drunken fun. I on the other hand would never go back to that, because what i have now (you also) is worth so much more. You are not old before your time, you are have something which im sure they want too. New friends will come in time.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (27 May 2009):
 The friends you currently have, are they the same than the ones you used to drink with?
It's normal for people to change interests in life, there's no age for that. Usually, an interest shift is followed by a friend shift.
In life, you tend to associate better with people of same interest.
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reader, malteser +, writes (27 May 2009):
 No you are not a saddo and you havent grown old before your time. I think that you are wise and a good person to not use binge drinking to have a good time. Because if you need to get completely off your face to enjoy yourself that is sad. I am 21 and i hardly drink because like you when i was younger i went off the rails and alcohol has caused me so many problems, Like being taken advantage of and 3 hospital visits due to binge drinking. I nearly lost the man i love and the respect of my parents. I do go out but i may have no drink or a little drink. I know what problems it causes. I look at other people who are drunk and thank myself that i have the respect and dignity to not be like them. I am settled with my man and we enjoy haveing a good time as a couple and with friends who drink in moderation. I think that you should hold your head up high and ask yourself do i relly want to be around people who act and behave like idiots when they drink? or im happy and thats all that matters.
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