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writes:I'm in desperate need of help. I really like this guy, but he's too old for me (legally). I'm fifteen years old and I just want to know if I'm obsessed, have a crush, or am I a stalker? You see, this guy isn't like other guys. He's nice and pretty young, he looks nice too. He acts about 16 when he's 18 years old. He makes me laugh a lot, and I even find myself having dreams about him (not sexual).I ask all my friends to tell me all they know about him, and I even asked him mom somethings once. When I move out, I might move close to him. But that's three years from now, I would really really like to know if I'm obsessed or is it just a crush? I want to get over him and move on, but I don't at the same time. I really need help...
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 October 2008):
 I think that you have a really serious infatuation. I don't think you gave enough evidence for me to say that you are stalking him, all though moving close to him seems a little extreme. I think, however, by then you'll have moved on and found new fellas to ogle.
Just keep yourself calm about this guy. Remember, the more you obsess over him, the less interested he's going to be in you. You want him to think that you are cool, collected and aloof. You don't want him to be scared by you!
I think that you're totally fine. Keep this guy as a fantasy, but definitely widen your horizons and start checking out other fellas too. Maybe even go up and talk to this guy you're all about! Talking to him might help the situation (maybe you'll figure out that he's actually an idiot. Maybe you'll like him as a friend. Maybe he'll be into you! Who knows?).
Just keep asking yourself, "is this creepy? Would a stalker do this?" and if the answer is YES, stop yourself and control your behavior.
Good luck, my darling!
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