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writes:Hi, just looking for some advice.So about 2 years ago, I met someone and we worked well together, so eventually we began a relationship. She was my first and only girlfriend so far, and it lasted for only a few months before she left me for another guy. Ever since I have not had or even considered another relationship.Despite this I haven't gotten over the relationship over the past 2 years, I still feel lonely, sometimes unwanted, and I don't think I'm ready for another relationship. I'm over the girl, but still feel bad about myself - I'm not particularly desirable, and don't seem to be attractive to anyone around me, yet all my friends and peers easily transition from one relationship to another without difficulty finding a partner or getting over their ex. Am I just too slow to move on? Thanks to any responses in advance.
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reader, Tinacandida +, writes (31 August 2021):
 Get yourself out and see whos out there. There must be something good about you for your ex to have stayed with you for two years. A lot of people out there seem to go from one person to the next within days or weeks. Just concentrate on going out for fun and enjoying the moment. Theres someone for everyone. If its meant to be then it will happen for you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 June 2021):
 You don't HAVE to serial date because OTHERS do so.
Ask yourself would YOU date you? If the answer is no, then what would you change? (things that you actually CAN change) like, take better care of yourself, hygiene, new haircut, upgrade glasses, dress a little better, work out and find hobbies that makes YOU happy.
One thing I found really strange with (at least American teen boys especially) is that they are not good with hygiene unless MOM tells them to shower and to put on clean clothes - but their rooms are neat! Then you have teen girls who have messy rooms but they are clean and dressed in clean clothes every day.
Someone who has hobbies they enjoy can find like-minded people. Of both sexes.
You might not be a hot guy, but not all girls are hot either. And not every girl ONLY wants the "got" guys. Someone who can make them laugh, be good company is definitely in higher demand than the guys who are just hot. Find YOUR niche. (a comfortable or suitable position in life or employment.)
I didn't start dating until I was 19. So kind of late compared to ALL of my friends. So what? There are no rules for when to date.
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