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writes:Well, I have been dating this girl for a month now, we hang out a lot, and we have a great time together. We are at the point where we will greet each other with a kiss and leave with a kiss, we give each other massages and fool around a little bit, it's very nice. My concern here is that it seems like she really likes me, but she is taking things so slow, it seems she dosen't want to get too intimate with me, she never sayes she misses me or thinks about me unless I say something, she does show a little affection, but not what I was hoping for. Does this seem strange to anyone, or am I just being to anxious? What should I do here? Reply to this Question
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reader, ryandude18  +, writes (26 November 2008):
 Maybe the problem is that you need to speak to her more about these things. Dont be anxious, she may feel the same way. Just enjoy it as much as you can, i think that is the most important thing.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (26 November 2008):
it's like us girls can not get it right, we are either too clingly or don't pay you guys enough attention. it's all to do with not knowing if we are coming across too clingly and needy.
maybe also she has had a bad break up and got hurt in the past by an ex, so she does not want to get too close to someone and get hurt again? you need to just tell her how much you like her and how happy you are with being with her and make her see that she can be more affectionate with you.
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reader, xxaziexx +, writes (26 November 2008):
 you should give her time, she may have had bad experiances in the past and just wants to take things slow to ensure she doesnt mess things up with you, you should respect her for this.:)
maybe you could sit her down and have a chat ask her were she wants to go with this
good luck
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reader, Missy3 +, writes (26 November 2008):
I understand what you are saying - exactly. But the only thing I can say is that maybe she is scared that if she seems too anxious, it will scare you away. That is how I feel sometimes. I am dying to call someone right now just to hear his voice but he said he would call me today. I don't want him to think that I am too needy or anxious. Maybe since you are being so open, she feels safe in taking it slow because she knows where she stands with you. Maybe she just wants to keep you guessing a bit longer. Also, she could not be as open as you are - ever. Maybe she keeps her feelings a bit hidden. Then you have to ask yourself if you can deal with that forever or forever how long the two of you are together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008):
Hi im exactly like that, when i get with men, i act the way you do,
And some people find that a bit too much, or clingy is the word.
If this girl is something special, she will understand you when u talk to her,
but if she doesnt understand she is not worth your care,
good luck xx
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