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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So, I have married for 4 years as of this past sunday. During the first year do our relatonship I was very verbally and physically abusive and even went to jail for domestic violence. I had to take anger management courses and AA meeting (I had a drinking problem) and I also had intimacy issues from previous bad sexual experiences as a teen. Needless to say I was a mess and I think in a way after we feel in love that we wanted to fix me. We now we have 2 beautiful children and I have changed my ways but I have load after load of guilt from taking my problems out on the first man to really love me. The problem is that he treats me like it is still 4 years ago. I havent reacted in any way like that since but now he overreacts to everything. Its like He has turned into the old me. Verbal abuse, throwing things, screaming...over the littlest things. He doesnt want to talk about it or go to couples therapy which I suggested. I love him soo much but I dont know how to pull us out of this rut we're in or if I should just call it quits. The one thing thats making me question it now that last night we got in a fight over the grocery list and he was screaming at me. I tried to keep my calm and calm him down but he wouldnt stop. So, finally I screamed at him to stop screaming at me and he threw everything between us out of the way and held me up against the wall telling me that we he was protecting himself and that I was crazy. I was on the other side of the room, i mean, i have kids now im not going to subject them to that kind of environment. He says hes going to get help online. I just dont know. He had been there for everything for me and supported me through everything and now hes falling off the deep end, do I catch him or do I let him sink alone?
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