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writes: I just want to know, is it common for girls to be out with their boyfriends and look at other guys and think they are hot, then when confronted about it deny that they were looking? Am I being possessive or does everyone do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, mystify +, writes (2 January 2006):
 i went out with a guy when i was younger who would see this in me no matter what i looked at , he was always wrong i had eyes for no other i denyed it to him but he never believed me!,
but i can only speak for myself, i am currently experiencing this situation from the other side i see my fella doing it and he denys it but i dont believe him due to lack of trust, do you trust her , has she given you any reason not to trust her.
but in answer to your question you are not being possesive it is hurtful and it does happen, but no not everyone does it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2005): thanks for youe advice, yeah she says she watches people but she does deny it when its a a guy, then after we fight about it for like a week shell finally admit that she liked his hair or something, she knows it bothers me but she doesnt think shes doing anything wrong
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reader, kris +, writes (24 August 2005):
I can relate to this topic hugely. Is she really looking and flirting, or is it your imagination? I was accused of this same thing everytime my boyfreind and I went out in public. I love to people watch, men, women, children, you name it, but when ever it came to looking at a male, I got accused of man looking. I would deny it, because it wasn't true, but before he would finally believe me, I was already so upset and my day was totally ruined. I loved my man and had no eyes for others, but he never beleived that. It got to the point that every time we went out in plublic, I would keep my eyes downcasted just to avoid any eye contact with a passing male. We are no longer together, not just for that, but that was one of the reasons. My advice make sure she really man looking and not just people watching. If she really is, then talk with her and tell her it really bothers you, and if she truly loves you, she will stop.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Mickey_Powell +, writes (22 August 2005):
 I think everyone does it. I know I do it all the time. It is absolutely normal for a girl to check out other blokes. But if it is bothering you do the same thing and see how she feels,then just tell her its the exact same thing she is doing, then see what she says, if she denys it, you deny it!!
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (22 August 2005):
 It all depends on how old your girlfriend is. Younger girls like in their teens may do this cause their maturity level has not been established as yet. Older ones may do it as well but not make as obvious. Hey guys do this too....they just keep it on the downlow. But tell her that it bothers you and how you feel about it. If on the other hand you find yourself getting overly jealous and overly possessive...then you need to either check yourself on that or walk away...those feelings lead to other behaviours that we don't want you having...like the violent ones.
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reader, pdude +, writes (22 August 2005):
Mate,
Girls love to be admired for their beauty. They also love attention especially from young and good looking guys. We have discussed about these things a lot in my friend circle. We see a lots of beautiful women married to handsome guys still looking at other guys when they go out. I guess its a way of reassuring themselves that they are capable of attracting good looking blokes even though they might be hanging out with some one who is ok. Also the desire of having more and more in life.
Actually, i was quite curious about this thing as well and i have personally tried to experiment about this in my life. I used to flirt with lots of young women married as well as single. I realized that some of the young girls who showed interest in me, after getting married tried to avoid eye contact with me. I think some of them get a feeling of guilt in making an eye contact with other guy when they get married (though deep inside they crave for such admiration or attention). I also tried asking a women out who was married and yet showing interest in me through eye contact. When i confronted her and asked her to go out for a date, she pulled back and gently said sorry and that she was married (at this point, i wanted to scream and ask her "Then Why the hell do you keep making eye contact with me that makes me feel that you want me?" ).
But that's the way it is i guess. You can never understand what's in their mind and what exactly they want in life.
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