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writes:New to this everyone. How is everyone?I'm just a young lad. Started a new job a few months ago. I'm really enjoying it.I've maybe got this totally wrong. Picking up the wrong signals. So there's this really attractive girl. She's 25. She's actually one of the bosses. I was attracted to her straight away. But I was trying to be sensible and not mix business with pleasure. And it's a new job. I started to pick up on things. She started to offer me lifts home. I've declined. She has a couple of tattoos that she offered to show me on her legs and again I declined. We've spoken a few times and the conversation has been quite flirty.Then today I accidentally was reaching over for something and I touched her by mistake. I apologised for touching her in the work place which she replied you can touch me anywhere you want. I joked that she was embarrassing me.Then this evening I had work I wanted to finish. I asked another boss if I could stay back and the boss I'm attracted to and have been flirting with offered to stay back with me. It was just her and I. She kept on getting close to me and asking me if I was okay. She also kept saying, Right what shall we do now? When we finished up she asked me to turn the lights off. When I did she followed me through. So now I was in a dark building with her. She offered me another lift home I again declined. Is it just me or does she fancy me the same way I fancy her. I don't want to ask her out if she's just flirting harmlessly then there is an atmosphere and we have to keep working together? I don't want to risk my job either.Am I just getting this all wrong?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (14 July 2014):
 If you ask me, she's being extremely inappropriate. Look, this is a fine balance that you have to maintain here. DO NOT date her no matter how much you want to because the saying "Dont shit where you eat" is there for a reason.That being said, don't hurt her ego by completely rejecting her by being blunt. Remember, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!Be polite, be firm and make it clear that you cannot date her or be inappropriate in any way. Try not to stay back alone with her because it looks like she's creating situations where there's a possibility of having sex with you. Remember, its your job that is more important to you and you will need these people to give you a recommendation when you leave them. Don't mess all that up. Forget the crush and just be professional. She has nothing to lose while you have everything at stake
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (14 July 2014):
 "I don't want to risk my job either"
Steer clear and keep on avoiding. Bosses rarely lose their jobs, though the people they sexually harass often do.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (14 July 2014):
 The job is the more important between the vaugue posibilty of a 'fling' or finanicial security. So the gamble is probably not worth the 'fantasy reward' If she's serious about a relationship away from work she'll let you know in no uncertain terms. in the meantime, 'keep your powder dry' and remain the gentleman employee.
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (14 July 2014):
 Is she married or have a BF? If so stay well clear! As she is a manager I would also stay well away. If it goes wrong relationship wise then you could find yourself in deep doh dah as she is a manager and you are young and new to the job.
Her signals suggests she is looking for sex but in an inappropriate, unprofessional manner which (with my wise old head on) would make me very wary. Maybe she sees you as young and easily lead? Either way stay away!
Mark
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 July 2014):
 She might fancy you, she might fancy making you fluster, and she might just be flirting.
Stay professional. You have only been there a few months.
I honestly think SHE is being a bit inappropriate towards you.
I'm one of those people who blush easily and my old boss thought it was the "cutest" thing to make me blush. The guy was a total knockout but definitely VERY happily married he just liked to carry on a good banter and he liked to make me blush. Never went past anything spoken and never sexual. It was fun (despite me HATING to blush) I took at as a game, no more.
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