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writes:Well, I was with my now ex for a little over 3 years before we split. We split last year for 4 months an got back together. This time its been a year an I have been patient with her. We broke up for stupid reasons an in the beginning we would talk and then she would curse me out. I did the same an eventually I let go. We had a talk an she told me she never stopped loving me. I blew it off until our son was sick one night an she had plans to go out an her mom wouldn't watch him. So she asked to sleep at my house w him when I get off work. So they came and he was fine. She told me she didn't love me an then wouldn't leave the next day until I left for work. It went on for a few weeks until she said shes been playing the field but hasn't slept w anyone or taken my son near any guys. A few minutes later she says she only said it so I would get over her. I finally said I had enough and wont take her calls an messages about stupid things. My son told her about a bee little boy moving in. She took it as someone was moving in w me and called 3 times and then texted me asking me. I told her I didn't need to explain it but explained a girl and her son were moving in. she responded being childish saying "maybe you'll get a gf out of it". I told her to stop being childish an leave me be. So a few days pass and she comes to pick him up Bc I had to work in the morning and she tries to strike up a convo with me. I ignored her and she was trying still. So I told her to stop talking to me. She leaves with our son and a few minutes later she tells me I lied about a day off and called me names. I proved her wrong an she shut up. I know I love her. But I don't know what to think. Her family always hated me so I know they play a role. I know I'm better off without her but I would deal w it for my son. Is it normal that a year later I still entertain and remain faithful? When I tell her what I do isn't her business she gets mad and tells me to leave her alone. I haven't called or messaged her in months, only replies to her. Does she still love me? Will it be awkward to even think we could get past over a year apart?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (19 July 2014):
 She doesn't sound too committed to me. Do you want someone who truly loves you and is committed only to you and wants to see you and spend time with you and your son. She doesn't sound like that person to me. You really should think about forgetting her, she is destroying you and its not worth your son suffering that. Concentrate on him and have some fun, the rest would surely follow in time and you will meet someone who can't do without you and show you how much she really cares.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 July 2014):
 Yikes I would honestly go through the courts and have a visitation schedule, if you live close to your parents or her parents make THAT the pick up and drop of point, that way you do no have to deal with her, unless it's about the kid.
Personally, I'd IGNORE any text that isn't about your son. I would also END any discussion (over the phone or in person) that isn't pertaining to your son, she will get it, eventually.
Getting back together would be the dumbest thing you both can do, you didn't work out before and NOTHING has been resolved so getting back together would do what? Be a repeat of the last time ending in more drama, not ideal for ANY of you or your son.
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