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writes:I am a 54 Year Old Man in good shape and I believe I am considered attractive. I had the good fortune to meet an amazing woman 2 and a half years ago through work. She is a waitress and she is 32 years old. I have made a point to keep in contact with her going to where she serves once every 2-3 months. This time I mentioned that I am pursuing a divorce. The bar/restaurant was busy and she made time to see me and talk 3-4 times. I decided to leave and she was busy so I walked out texting her letting her know I didn't want to leave with out saying goodbye, as I hit send she hurried out the door to say good bye but I was down the street. She yelled out something to me and see you later. When I got to my next stop I noticed she replied to my text and at the end she added the "kissy face" emoji. This leads to my question. Is she trying to send me a signal or am I just a hopeful idiot? My heart aches for this girl it has since I first saw her. Opinions please?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (29 January 2016):
 OP, the text does seem flirty, but it seems some of here have known folks who send these messages who don't mean to be flirty.
It's just a word of warning not to base your interpretation of any feelings for you on a text message.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 January 2016):
 Yep. I'm with WiseOwlE
Cute as her text was... the FACT is... YOU are legally a married man. And that means... WHAT do you have to offer her long term?
IF you are looking to date this woman at some point (or ANY woman) get the divorce over and done with so you ARE a FREE and SINGLE man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2016): The point you're missing is you're still a married-man until you receive a legal decree that your marriage is dissolved.
That young woman does not deserve the reputation of a lady involved with a married-man; regardless of who filed with for the divorce. No one knows the true situation between you and your wife but you, and she probably doesn't know you're married. Whether she does or not, and whether she's sending you flirts or not, it is irrelevant until your divorce is final.
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reader, hopefulidiot +, writes (28 January 2016):
hopefulidiot is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust for Clarity, I am not the one who asked for the Divorce although I am not fighting it. I have made it clear that my marriage was not a happy one through our multiple conversations and I have never "hit on" this woman once and I have never cheated throughout my 20+ years of marriage. My question is specifically about whether she is giving me a signal with the kiss blowing a heart? I would submit that if anyone caught their significant other receiving a text like that it would cause suspicion would it not?
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reader, Ciar +, writes (28 January 2016):
I agree with Honeypie.
Finish up with the divorce and let the dust settle. She doesn't need to be made a target by a vengeful ex wife or to be your anchor through what might become an acrimonious time. In other words, she doesn't need to be burdened by your unfinished business.
And Honeypie's right about the emoticons. Some people say 'love ya' to all their close friends while others don't. Same with kissy faces. Slow down.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (28 January 2016):
 Ask her out and see what happens. Id rather be a hopeful idiot than a "what if" one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2016): You're pursuing a divorce? Why don't you finish with that; before starting your single-life?
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reader, Petina57  +, writes (27 January 2016):
 Well she definately likes you by the sound of it. You will gain more respect if you let her know you will make contact with her again when your divorce is finalised and see how the land lies then. Good luck. Hope this helps
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reader, boo22 +, writes (27 January 2016):
 Hi
If your heart is really aching for this gorgeous creature I think you should go back the restaurant and ask her out.
If you need encouragement, watch Colin Firth in the movie Love Actually first for inspiration.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 January 2016):
I think she likes you, but that doesn't mean she wants to date you or be with you. You really DO NOT know her.
But I think you need to slow down, Romeo.... YOU are not yet fully divorced and thus have nothing to REALLY offer her.
Some people use emoji's like they are going out of style, others... don't - So I seriously wouldn't read more into the "kissy face" emoji.
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