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writes:Everytime i see my boyfriend its always late at night and when we go to bed around 12 he wants sex, but im just too tired to even think about sex and he throws a tantrum saying im boring and i make him feel uncomfortable in bed. Then we have sex in the morning when im not tired but ive told him id prefer sex at night but he just wants to watch tv and sort his house out which is beign done up. This has been going on for several months and im fed up. He never picks me up early, always 8/9 when he decides to turn up. Am i in the wrong when he expects sex when we go to bed to sleep at 12 at night when im exhausted? Some nights he wont even talk to me and his excuse is that he is tired and this is while where watching tv, i dont understand men sometimes. He even said sex seems forced and i told him it was because i was half a bloody sleep! This is wearing me down, please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2007): You need to show him your post and tell him exactly how you feel about this whole issue and ask him for a solution. Suggest strongly that if he wants to have sex with you he needs to come around earlier so that you can get to bed earlier...if he refuses, then cut him off even in the morning if you are not into it....it is not very loving of him not to care about your needs, have sex with you when you are dead tired and then complain because you are not that into it or him....
We teach people how to treat us. If you continually let him get away with mistreating you, then he will continue to do what works for him...just stand your ground and don't see him late if that is uncacceptable to you. Don't agree to be used in this manner.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (23 February 2007):
 I think its wrong of him to turn up so late, and then expect sex when you are tired. And when you decline it he gets the hump, i don't think this is really fair on you.
I would suggest to him that he comes to pick you up earlier, like 7.00 or something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe do go out for dates but i havent met any of his friends or even his family. He is very nice to me but goes off on one when he doesnt get the sex. Ive tried to get intimate with him when were on the sofa but he thinks next door will hear becoz we can sometimes hear there tv. thank you all x
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (23 February 2007):
 he should not expect sex! your boyfriend sounds like a total brat if this is all hes showing up at your place for then best Idea is to drop him
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (23 February 2007):
 Do you and your bf actually date, or does he show up to watch reruns of Benny Hill and for a "booty call"? By date, I mean, does he take you to the movies, dinner, dancing, any of those romantic things? Or does he just show up to get what he wants from you?
If he's just there for his convenience, I think it's time to find a new boyfriend. He sounds like a slug.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): He either stop the tantrums or you stop the sex! Simple! You two need to get to bed sooner. But there again, you don't have to do it in bed. How about switching the tv off and cuddling up for a session on the sofa. The list is endless but do talk to him and point out how you feel. Tell him to pick you up sooner and cut the bloody plug off the TV!!!
Take care
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