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writes:To start off, one night my two good friends and I were hanging out. I have a really good friend who i haven't seen in a while that came over and she brought her friend, we'll call him Wes. We all started hanging out every weekend for a long time and it was crazy and fun. But Wes had a thing for me but I had no attraction to him what so ever, so we talked about it and I told him how I felt but he still tryed to win me over. I thought it was cute and he was a good listener so we had deep talks and became really good friends. But Kayla(one of my good friends) was getting jealous.She didn't tell me she liked him, she just started ignoring me and stopped inviting me to hang out. I thought it was really dumb and Wes was kinda on my side because he didn't like her back. I don't know for sure if i really had feelings for him or if it was just out of spite toward Kayla, but we kissed. He was taking me home and i told him we should just stay best friends and he told me he really wanted to kiss me. I don't know why I let him but i did. Then 2 days later he tells me he doesnt like me anymore because he's been flirting with my friend and they started dating 3 days later. They thought I was stupid for being mad. It might not have broke my heart but it's scared pretty good.Now I don't even talk to my friend and we don't hang out anymore. And I can't believe she let a guy come between us. Am I in the wrong for being mad? any advice or opinions are helpful...Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help. That's just something I needed to hear. It's gonna take a lot of work to get this friendship back but as for the drama. I'm moved on. Forgive and forget right?:) Thanks Bunches!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 They did not scar your heart, they scarred your ego. You'll survive :)
You thought you had made a conquest, and you were flattered ( whether you liked the boy or not ). Then 3 days later you find out that after all he prefers the other girl,- so you weren't THAT special after all, and it burns a little, it's natural.
As for Kayla letting a boy come between you, well, you did exactly the same to her, didn't you ? You kissed the guy that you knew SHE liked, and you weren't even that interested !
I'd say you are even, and if you want , you all can get over this little drama very rapidly :). I say " if you want " because , seen the circumstances, I've got the feeling that the bond between you girls is not so strong and deep all in all, so- it's up to you.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (20 December 2011):
 Your angry hopefully not mad. I dont think its wrong of you, Emotions have a way of getting the best of us. But now you need to take control. You dont like Wes so there's no loss there. You told him you just wanted to be freinds he probably asked for the kiss as a way of saying good by an d he probably gt a strong sense of satisfaction out of the fact that he won in the cat and mouse game. You held out the best you could but in the end he won. And then he moved on to someone who actually likes him. someone he wont have to chase forever.
This makes me think of the whole Steve Urkel and Laura romance this Boy chased that girl for a decade she had absolutely no interest in him in the end he had to become a completely different person to win her over. Well so much for just being yourself but in reality one Cant transform them self into the perfect person.
Write you friend a letter tell her the situation and hopefully you can rebuild your friendship. And go after your Stefan let her have urkel
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