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writes: Well, my boyfriend and I are filling in applications for college, and since he's been putting off doing his personal statement for a few weeks now, I offered to do it for him... I looked up some things that might be important to mention and asked him about the things I needed to, I was all set to draft it up when he says: 'Don't bother.. I'll do it myself.' I ask him why and he goes: 'I don't want to make you work.' This really annoyed me, I was into doing the whole thing, even having fun, and he says he wants to do it himself. He says he was 'afraid that it would get boring/tedious' and that was why he changed his mind, whereas he was 'exalted' about me wanting to help him. I got really annoyed and refused to help him anymore. Was I being immature/difficult? I can't understand why he would act like that when I really wanted to help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): Are you going to write all his papers in college too? Make sure he gets all his assignments done on time? Maybe you can escort him to class to make sure he goes? Your boyfriend is going to start thinking of you as "mom" and it will probably kill his attraction to you eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): ummm, I used to be like you. Until my ex husband decided to walk out on me, leaving me with an infant to never come back. It later followed with a divorce, my repenting and him taking advantage of it. I ended understanding what I lost and receiving emotional and psychological abuse from his part. He never came back. Now I know (for my next relationship) how not to act and how to be understanding and respectful to the person I'll be with. Most important how to comprehend and have a lot more self control of myself. Hope you won't end up learning like I did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Um he's not a child so stop treating like one. He wants to do his own work
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Goodness, are you his mother? I think you should back off and let him be an adult. Guys don't like women hovering over them and trying to act like Mom.
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reader, niki20  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 I think that after realizing that he wasnt doing the work he needed to do for himself that he feel bad about it and he realized that he has to be an adult.
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reader, MrBrightside90  +, writes (24 April 2009):
I think it is pretty immature.
Just let him do his personal statement, if you really want to help, tell him.
But dont make a big deal out of it.
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