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Am I gay if I watch gay porn and have fantacies of men (but don't want to be gay)?

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Question - (3 October 2007) 10 Answers - (Newest, 1 October 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

i watch gay porn and fantasize about having sex with men but dont want to in real life, i dont want to be near a man but does it mean im gay

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A female reader, butterfly21 United States +, writes (1 October 2008):

no you're not gay. hell any two people that are sexy turn me on, guy or girl. but i only want to be with a guy

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008):

Watching gay porn does not make you gay.Women watch lesbian porn, but there not called lesbians. So whats the difference.

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A male reader, mm2u United Kingdom +, writes (18 February 2008):

Most likely curiousity, but if you feel that you ahve sexual feelings for them, and picture yourself having sex with one of the men on the pornographic videos, then maybe you need to consider your sexuality.

Hope this was of help, please rate me.

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A male reader, gayguy16 United Kingdom +, writes (25 October 2007):

gayguy16 agony auntit could be a phaze of curiosity, or you could be bi-sexual and not have relised it,,you may as well experament,

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007):

It does not necessarily mean you are gay. And even if you are, oh well, it's not too big of a deal. I totally agree with one of hte previous comments - that things that are 'forbidden' are often total turn ons. I don't watch gay porn but if i saw two hot chicks making out i'd get turned on. it's natural to be curious. just make sure that you are 110% honest with yourself and with your girlfriend/wife/etc. if you have one. feel free to experiment if you want. watch the movie Shortbus, it's amazing and has similar topics as to what you're struggling with. i wish you the best of luck. who cares 'what' we are, as long as we're not doing anyone harm and we're enjoying ourselves! that's what sex is!

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A female reader, Mushgirl United Kingdom +, writes (21 October 2007):

Mushgirl agony auntBeing gay is pretty sociably acceptable nowadays (not that it should bother you) but gay sex is still a sort of, well taboo subject for many people. Some people are turned on by 'taboo' stuff like incest, gay sex, etc. Or maybe you are gay...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007):

Humans are sexual beings, maybe it is simply a fantasy, but something you'd never carry out! Perhaps it's "masculinity" that you find appealing rather than wanting to have sex with other men? Just because you find something Sexy, doens't necissarily mean you want to have sex with it.

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A female reader, candy_kisses 4987 United States +, writes (4 October 2007):

Just because you have fantasies and watch porn that dont mean anything. I mean you could possibly be gay or bisexual but none of us can say for sure because we dont know you. This all does not necissarily mean you are gay, give yourself some time to figure out your self and you will know what sex you prefer. Sexual orientation isnt always black and white, it can be a confusing thing.

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (4 October 2007):

rcn agony auntnope, not unless you're doing things with men.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007):

sorry dude, you are gay.

We are all socially conditioned at a young age through peer pressure and the like to think that being Gay is wrong and if you have a religious background god help you, you will be carrying even more baggage around.

You missed one major factor, do girls turn you on? Be honest with yourself, the answer lies there ( you could possibly be bi-sexual )

All indications are that you are gay though. Dont fret, there are millions out there. And its nobody's business but your own.

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