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writes:Hi. So I posted a question before, but I am still feeling very uncomfortable and frustrated with myself. Here's the whole story. I am 18 years old and go to an all women's college. I chose to come here because I knew I would never have to worry about what I look like, excellent campus and professors, and it's an overall awesome school. Little to my knowledge, did I realize that a huge percent of the population is gay. From the high school that I come from, there is about 2 or 3 gay people, so I have not be around many, but I've never been homophobic or anything. About a month ago, I was out to dinner with two of my friends from school, and they told me someone who I knew, was gay, but I had absolutely no idea. Something clicked and I got really anxious. For some reason, I started analyzing every aspect of my life and asking myself, "Am I gay and I just don't know it?" I was especially uncomfortable, because, even before I came here, I have seen and been turned on by lesbian porn. I don't exactly know why, but I am. I enjoy watching other porn with guys too, but watching lesbian porn became a habit, easy to watch and easy to get off to. So I freaked. Does watching lesbian porn make me gay? But, I have never been physically, emotionally, or sexually attracted to a girl I have known or met. As a matter of fact, I don't get along with too many girls. AND I have always been attracted to guys, my entire life. I have been with an amazing guy for over three years, and he knows about all of this. I just don't know how to convince myself that I'm not gay and my anxiety is making me feel this way. My brain knows that I am not gay, but my anxiety is making me be over analytical and I have no idea how to go back to who I was a few weeks ago and not worrying about any of this. Is being in an all women's college, being surrounded by such a large gay community, making me question my sexuality?Sorry this is so long, but I am so desperate for advice and help. Thank you so much! I really appreciate it.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (26 March 2009):
 If anything you're bi-curious. I'm straight, I've never even kissed a girl, but I went to an all-girls high school for the exact same reason and I have found girls extremely attractive. Being surrounded with people who have different lifestyles from you may make you curious, but the way you're freaking out and over-analyzing makes me pretty sure you're straight, too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): Like Jessica said, don't worry. What matters is what you want. If you want to be with the right guy, then you're straight.
If, being in an all-girl environment, you're horny and you try something out with a girl and it doesn't work for you, then you're straight.
Don't get hung up on labels. You'll be what you want to be. If, after some experience, you want to be with a guy, then don't sweat it.
Chill, kid!
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reader, girlygirl720 +, writes (26 March 2009):
Its not a big deal. It sounds like your not gay. Don't worry. There are many things that turn people on sexually. Even if you are, its not a big issue in this day and age. Enjoy your sex life safely and have fun with it.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (26 March 2009):
 If you are not physically or emotionally attracted to women and have only ever like men, then your straight.
Watching little more than overpaid actresses does not make you gay. If it did, then would guys be gay for watching porn that involves two guys and a girl? No.
If you know you like men, that should be enough.
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