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writes:OP's own title.Ok so...Me and my now ex-boyfriend had been dating for a little over a year. He is 22 and i am 20. He is white and i am black(this alone has caused some strain with my family but not enough to break us)We broke up because I told him i cheated. And i told him in the worst way possible: in an argument. I got drunk at a party and kissed someone else.After I cheated, I couldn't enjoy partying anymore. I felt it wasn't worth loosing him over so i stopped. I also ended a really good friendship because they disliked each other. All of this happened about 3 months into our relationship. My plan was to never tell him so i could A. spare breaking his heart and B. keep this relationship. But we fought and i just blurted it out. I figured I'd never see/talk to him again. My problem is now his ENTIRE family and ALL of his friends hate me and called me a slut among other things. But he has told me numerous times that his mom and sisters and most of his friends have all cheated. In my eyes they are being hypocritical but understandingly so. His family is very important to him and he wants us to get along, which i do too. I couldn't be the girl who comes between family. Family is sacred in my eyes. Should i fight against everyone in his life and in mine to keep the one i love and planned to marry? He has told me he doesn't know if he wants to give me another chance and is DEEPLY wounded by my lies and unfaithfulness. But he still comes to see me and calls me and say he loves me. And he made love to me last night. Should i try my hardest to prove myself and keep begging him to take me back or break my heart and let him move on with his life?? Please someone help me. *SORRY SO LONG*
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reader, InLoveW/Love +, writes (1 August 2010):
InLoveW/Love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry it took so long to respond. Thanks to everyone for the great advice. My boyfriend and I have decided to stay together despite everything. Wish us luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): if u can cope with being disliked and more importantly,not fully trusted by him, cool. unfortunately trust has been broken,he knows your capabilities,u could end up back with the same guy,but its unlikely u will get back the same relationship u had. to b truthful,u might b better letting go. if your underwear has tendencies to fall off when drunk,unless single at the time,drink soda.
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reader, almc  +, writes (28 July 2010):
If you love him show him you do, don't mess around with other guys right now. And don't lie to him at all, if he finds out you lied one more time he won't be able to come back, give him tme.
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