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writes:Okay basically, I'm a virgin, but a week ago i met this lovely guy, we got both were quite drunk and i dont have much memory of the night (neither does he, i still talk to him)- but i do remember kissing him quite a bit and then going into a bathroom with him- as far as i remember i was in that bathroom with him like 5 minutes, only kissing- but everyone else there (sober, reliable friends) say we were in there like 30 minutes- (i often forget whole periods of time when im very drunk) but basically, last few days there's been a bit of blood in my pants (im not in any discomfort however?) and i know its not my period because my period had JUST ended when i met him... im basically paranoid theres a link to this and that night, like something more happened with him that night... could this be possible? or could it just be something totally unrelated? please help im at a total loss and kindof worried...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): wow you peole are stupid,this poor girl is trying to get answers and all you want to do is tell her to stop drinking?! honestly this pisses me off if you want to help try answering her question not lecturing her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): That's wonderful that you aren't pregnant! You will probably never know exactly what happened that night, dear. More than likely thought it sounds very much like your hymen was broken in one way or another. A normal young woman just doesn't bleed for no apparent reason. Do yourself a big favor..don't get so drunk that you dont remember ok? And use condoms. You are far too young to get pregnant. Think of this experience as a wake up call. PLEASE take care of yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUDATE:hello to all who have been helping me piece this together.well I took a pregnancy test immediately, and it was completely clear- Very relieved, but still confused as to what actually is the exact cause of the bleeding... was it even anything to do with that night at all? Could it have been totally unrelated? I don't know... I don't know if I will ever know exactly what happened that night.Thank you for your thoughts/advice all of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): Actually, I'm a little concerned by this line you said:
"i often forget whole periods of time when im very drunk"
From what I understand, having blackouts is an indication of some serious alchohol use. And if you were drinking to the point of blacking out, chances are you may not be a virgin anymore. You say, "i really dont feel like i've lost my virginity," but what does that mean? All that means is that you weren't sober/conscience enough to recall the events of that night.
Go to you ob/gyn, see if what the problem may be, and for God's sake, stop drinking to that degree! No one should ever drink so much that they start having blackouts! That's on par with alchoholism, sweetie. You really need to slow that level of drinking down if not stopping altogether. Whether or not you lost your virginity during some drunken blackout is not a question you should ever have to ask yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): Dear Poster
I can understand that you are worried; you have numerous reason to be worried but I think you need try and calm down; you cannot change what happened but you can be responsible and do "damage control";
As you cannot remember exactly what happened he probably won't either; and even if he does, he might not be completely honest about it;
THUS
I suggest the bleeding can be because you were a virgin and might be due to the hymen being torn; but we cannot speculate; there could be various other reason;
You need to make an appointment and see your doctor; the bleeding is not normal and you cannot play games taking chances with your health.
If you did have sex for the first time, the chances are that you would have been feeling a little uncomfortable at your genitals the next morning but it is not always the situation; however, maybe he did not penetrate you and only did some fingering; which is more then likely the case if he also had a lot to drink, but there is not certainty;
Therefor you need to see your doctor; if you had unprotected sex there are numerous risks and you will have to be honest with your doctor; you will need a pregnancy test, but also you will probably need to be tested for STD'S and AIDS.
I URGE you please consult your doctor; don't allow one stupid mistake to ruin the rest of your life;
I am hoping for you that he just fingered you and that it is just delayed blood from the hymen that was torn;
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please, for your own PEACE OF MIND and to avoid any risks;
PLEASE consult your doctor a.s.a.p.
Oh, and be kind and loving to yourself; don't let this happen to you again; try not to drink so much; you need to stay in control of yourself and know what you are doing; never have unprotected sex; it is to risky;
Don't let this stress you out any further; get to your doctor; we all make mistakes in life, but then we have to sometimes rectify our mistakes and LEARN from it;
You NOW have to do what is right for your health and that is to CONSULT the doctor; yeah, I know, it will be awkward and you might feel embarrassed, but hey, the doctor is dealing with this all the time; no reason to feel awkward.
I do hope that all will be okay for you; please keep us posted; my thoughts and prayers will be with you.
Lots of hugs and SMILES
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reader, help101 +, writes (9 October 2008):
 okay at the sound of this it sounds like you are pregant and you might want to see your GP because you might of caught somthing while you were having sex...but i might be wrong coz im not an expert
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): You are pretty young to be having gynecology issues, and you did say you don't remember..so I hate to say this but sounds like a really good chance you had sex, or partial sex, because sometimes (not always) you bleed the first time. Or perhaps he just used his hands on you there and broke the hymen. I think it would be VERY wise of you to take a pregnancy test, and ASK the guy what happened..an uh..word of advise..don't drink so much that you don't know what happens...can lead to some pretty serious stuff ok? Take care of yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for the reply guillaume :)
yeh see that's what im worried it might be... but i mean... i thought if i HAD had sex with him, i would have been in some sort of discomfort the next day surely, which i wasn't at ALL...
and also- i only started this painless bleeding a week later...
im kinda hoping i'm just paranoid- and that it's unrelated to the events of last week... i mean could it be something else totally unrelated?
i really dont feel like i've lost my virginity... and the guy certainly doesnt act like something like that happened between us (he IS a good guy, friend of a very good friend who sees him all the time)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): Hello there. It sounds to me like you guys probably had sex. You need to take a pregnancy test and an STI test just in case. These are important, don't think that just because you can't remember it, you didn't do it.
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