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*ookiemon77
writes:Hi,I'm having a baby in August and my husband wants my inlaws to come two weeks before I'm suppose to give birth. I told him that it was a bad idea because I did not know how I was going to feel. And his family didn't know how to act and that all I wanted before that was peace and quiet. His family is pretty loud and do not know what bounderies are. i am trying to work till the very end and will want to come home to a quiet house where I can rest in peace and having extra people in the house can be stressful. Not only that, if his folks are there his older son will want to come and visit with his children and want to be there all day long. I don't think that I can handle this situation. I told him that if things got to much I would pack up and go to my mothers. I don't think they will be here to help but they might surprise me, but knowing them, I don't think so. I am feeling really stress about this and trying not to think about what might happen. My mother is even staying away until I need her because she says that this is a very stressful time and it is my first baby so I need some space. My question is am I exagerating? Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 Not at all, if you are working right up until the end then it is very inconsiderate of your partner to ask for them to come and visit 2 weeks before you are due. Plus, there is always a chance the baby could come a bit early, and 2 weeks early is very normal so it would be awful if there are loads of people in your house when you go into labour, or when you come home from hospital!
You need to tell your partner that you are happy for your in-laws to come visit once the baby is born, but 2 weeks before your due date is too close and there are too many uncertainties around this time to committ to having visitors. You should not have to leave your own house to stay with your mother just because your husband has decided to have visitors, that is so inconsiderate on his part. He should be thinking about you and you only, not about his family or anyone else. If he says they are still coming - simply tell him no, that is not happening and that is the end of it.
Put your foot down here - you are right and he is totally in the wrong, and you should not be forced out of your own home just because your husband is being selfish and thoughtless.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 May 2011):
No, not at all. Your needs and your newborn baby's needs are more important than anything. Even your own mother is staying away because she knows how hard it'll be for you. You need peace and quiet, and that's it. Your husband will just have to like it on this occasion. When you and the baby are settled (which won't be for some time), then maybe they can stay for more time. Until then, you need rest.
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